I have a crush/am in love with an actor. wanting to change lifestyle?

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I have a problem. I have a normal living standard. I have huge plans for my future and my education in computer technology. I am avarage looking. Got good connections and friends all over the place (Heck all over the world "Thanks to the internet") I am aware that I am young and I'm developing different feelings. I have never accually had a real girlfriend, I have had sex several times before and maturingly (If that's even a real word) dated local girls. I don't really seem to get anywhere longer where I am. I had my life under controll and I finally had a nice standard flow it life. (It's getting boring) Because I am now beware that I only have one life, which I want to live at it fullest. Until I saw one actor. I started watching this show. I got a total addiction and I have finished watching the whole series in only two weeks. (It has not influenced my economic and business education though) My feelings have developed into a semi-obsession. I find out that she's accually part-where-I-am-from(Not the most popular countries, yes countries. She is from two places where I am from aswell, both have split country parents) We play the same instruments, we both share the same special music taste which is not that popular (not contemporary)She's eight years older than me so there's a huge gap. But the sad thing is that's accually the smallest compared to that she's a tv actor for a popular network.
So that I can maybe get closer to her in a way. I've always loved movies, directing and acting. I am the leader type aswell so I can just imagne myself being a director, screenwriter or adapt myself into different roles. I've seen all sorts of cult movies that I analyze and inspect for myself to learn. I live in a sad dump of a town and my life feels restricted. But I've been afraid to risk what I know and can do, and have prepared for the future. What should I do? I feel like I'm currently stuck in limbo.

I am also so sorry for not specifying the question.

Thanks.

You only live once. Go for it! Start writing/acting 16
Don't do it. Live a normal life! 5
Reconsider it and plan the risks. 7
Change your lifestyle but not drasticly. 9
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  • dom180
    10 years ago | pl

    Sorry to stamp on your dreams, but you should bear in mind that your chances of success are so close to zero they might as well be that. Writing and directing aren't things you can get into just to impress a girl - they require many years of well-honed talent. And why would you even need to chance your lifestyle to be with this girl; what makes you think a change in lifestyle would make you more attractive to her? And why do you think sharing superficial commonalities like music and nationality would make you connect better with her than any other girl? You need to step back from your obsession and judge things objectively: what makes her worth risking everything for? No-one is worth that.

    I'm sorry, but I think you're onto a loose end and you shouldn't waste your time. What you need is some excitement in your life, but it doesn't have to come from chasing a girl you have no chance with. You can change your life with other motivations in mind. If you're bored with it, why not change your life just because you want to?

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    You need to be realistic. You have a good life, don't throw it away to uncertainty.

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  • juck35
    10 years ago

    Maybe I can just work alot and study hard in IT. Train alot and get in a good "handsome" shape. Flash foward: Goodshaped, longhaired business man with a sharp suit. Taking 1st class to an international meeting. Instead of being that slob of an IT Technician which works in the basement, fixing pc's. I think that it's more about giving it in life. I don't want to be stuck back you know. Thank you for all the realistic aspects of the situation.

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    • FJK_frm_AK25
      8 years ago

      Ur a fucking trip dude

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    Wow.Look. I work in the entertainment world. These people are not who you think they are. They are what their publicist, the studio, and who they want you to think they are. They have an image. It may resemble who they are and it may not. Regardless. They are there for you to fall in love with for 2 hours while you're watching a movie...or for an hour a week when you're watching their nighttime drama. They are not there for you to FALL IN LOVE with for real. It's ok for you to have an actor crush but changing your lifestyle to hope to get this person is not only drastic. It's crazy. YOU DON'T KNOW THIS PERSON! It's not like this is someone you've been friends with and have decided you're in love with. This is a STRANGER who's fake life you watch on tv.

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  • juck35
    10 years ago

    I know it sounds childish. I'm a pretty mature guy. I think I'm going to change my lifestyle, not personality. I'm still going to go on with business and economy. I'll just write screenplays next to that work as a hobby (You never know!)

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    Maturely is a word

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    I've always been obsessed with Christina Ricci, but I know that'll never happen lol.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I think every 12 year old has had star crushes and this too shall pass. I'm now 36 and wouldn't want to touch my former crushes with a ten foot pole given how they must be at least 50+ now.

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