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I had sex with the most popular guy in college and everybody was after him but when i had sex with him all of his sexiness went away and i felt really super uncomfortable. is that normal?
Funny, i know who you are and where you live and where you go to school and i know the story isnt true.
Often being a slut and having sex just because the guy is popular does little except adds another on to his conquest list. I wonder what did you expect?
Well you're shallow, and damn I hope that's NOT normal but I'm not a college girl (either of those actually) so I can't tell you. But damn. Seriously? Maybe you got turned off because of the conquest thing. Been there/done that? There are guys like that too. I wont hesitate to judge them and call them shallow asses as well. Just how it is I guess.
Sure - no wonder - you had sex just because he was popular. I guess that's one of life's lessons.
You were attracted to him precisely because he was popular (and presumably hard to get). This is perfectly normal for women. Once you had sex, you got to know him much better, and discovered (consciously or subconsciously) that he's really not as appealing as you thought he might be. He was a disappointment.
Having discovered what you wanted to learn, there is no longer any motivation to continue further with him. You uncovered his secret: that his popularity is illusory, that he doesn't have intrinsic positive qualities to justify it.
You might now even feel guilty about having slept with him. Don't. It is better to have learned this about him sooner, rather than later. Otherwise, you would have wasted a lot of emotional energy chasing after an illusion.