I hate when guys wanna ask questions

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One of the biggest pet peeve I have in my life is when a guy i'm talking to suggests we ask each other questions, that I ask him questions or all the cliché dumbass shit questions like "tell me something embarrassing which happened to you" that they found in an article on google.
Maybe its my social anxiety or my lack of social skills I really dont know but I have no idea what they expect me to ask or tell and it stresses me the fuck out. I also completely shut down when I have pressure on me to talk instead of it just being natural conversation and accepting silence when it happens and forcing you to ask questions is pretty damn pressuring. That's a good way for those people to tell me they're basic, boring uncreative and stiff though because every single one of the people who's said this has been in real life. The rest has been really chill and enjoyable to spend time with.

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  • a-curious-bunny
    3 years ago

    I hate that shit. Its like or we can just have a genuineness conversation. But that never happens with those people. I really hate the tell me about yourself questions. Its like uh I like books and work alot? Wtf am I supposed to say. I usually don't even remember what I ate for supper 2 nights ago you think im gonna remember things about myself??

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  • CountessDouche
    3 years ago

    Wait what?

    Do you mean like canned questions or all questions, because you make it sound like you're bothered by questions period. How are people supposed to get to know eachother?

    Two people on a date who are only allowed to use declarative statements and gestures would be amusing to see.

    Oh shit I asked a question

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Lol.
      I mean when he says "ask me something" or "let's ask each other questions".
      It feels so forced.
      Like someone else commented like forcing intimacy which should come natural like I will ask something if I am curious when I am curious and he can do the same.

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      • CountessDouche
        3 years ago

        Oh yeah, like "top 10 questions you should ask your date" type questions...those are often horrible & honestly some of them are personal & cringy

        So, yeah, in that case, I totally agree

        Btw, op...tell me about the first time you cried as a middle schooler? If you had to choose one, would you be a grape or a cloud?

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  • jethro
    3 years ago

    Outside of a job interview, I have never, ever had someone suggest that to me. If they had, my first question would be "In a few seconds, when I walk away from you and drive away, do you have plans on just how you are going to get home?"

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  • YE
    3 years ago

    Are you one of those people who snore loudly at night?

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  • LondonGoldman
    3 years ago

    On my first date with my wife she was getting annoyed with me asking questions also

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    • blinkeredharlot
      3 years ago

      Lol cuz she was 12? Hey guy from the south!

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      • LondonGoldman
        3 years ago

        The owner knows whos account is whos based on IP. Im sure he also knows you agree with yourself on your other accounts also. Im done arguimg with you from now on. Leave me alone. Im blocking you.

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    Any guy who asks you soon after meeting to tell him something you've experienced that you found embarrassing is the one with poor social skills.

    You writing the guys off as uncreative and unspontaneous makes sense, but I wonder if it might be more sinister than that: I can imagine this sort of thing being suggested on pick-up mind-games websites. Normally, people only share this sort of information once they're comfortable with someone and it comes up naturally in a conversation. If the guy gets you share something with them that has some sort of emotional charge and isn't something you tell everyone, that's forcing a sort of intimacy

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    • a-curious-bunny
      3 years ago

      Dude one of my coworkers has been expressing interest in me lately wanting to get drinks etc. So I finally agreed I was like ok yea sounds like fun (for new years) I was like know any place good that'll be open? He was just just like idk your place? Like wow instantly lost interest in him.

      So I was like wow you really want to get into my place.(not the first time) and now he's acting butthurt saying im making him feel like a very bad guy. It just leaves me with no words man

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Yes, well put. It feels kind of like forced intimacy.
      I tell people i've known for a while stuff that's happened to me naturally because by then it feels comfortable to do so

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  • GaelicPotato
    3 years ago

    Okay but what's the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?

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