I hate what my boyfriend has done, but i cant be without him.

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I am 25 and my boyfriend is 42. About 18 months ago, my boyfriend and i had a big problem. I fell pregnant and we had only just got together. It was too soon to have kids and he said that he hasn't set his heart on having anymore kids but he may change his mind in time. He already has two from his ex wife. So it was decided to have an abortion because i thought the more time we spend together that he may change his mind. After that was done my boyfriend sprung on me that he is getting a vasectomy. I begged him not to as i want kids, but he did it anyway. Now i want kids and now he is saying that he never wants kids, and if i do want kids then ill have to leave him. I explained that it'll be different with me cause we love each other and im younger and i want a little mini him for me to love. He says he's too selfish (and i agree) but i don't want to leave him because i love him. I'm going to see a therapist to see if i can snap out of this. But i need some advice and was wondering if anyone else is going through what i am?

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  • c00lio
    12 years ago

    You guys are way off on different life paths. Hardly surprising - your ages are way apart and you want different things. If you want children, the answer is obvious - you need a different man.

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  • millefeuille
    12 years ago

    he's such an ass and you shouldn't have gotten that abortion.

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  • pain123
    12 years ago

    So u killed ur baby because HE didn't want kids?! Ur an idiot! I hate ppl like u who think it's ok I'll just abort this one and maybe later I will have one or I could just abort again until he's ready! Now look at urself u killed the baby for no reason!

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    • pixie_dust
      12 years ago

      she needs help not criticism u asd

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    What an asshat. If didn't get the abortion you'd still be able to have his kid. Leave him and move on.

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  • ThatChick28
    12 years ago

    What a shitty situation...and don't worry, this happens all the time, I know an older couple where the woman wanted kids sooo bad and she's 43 an STILL says she's gonna leave her man to go have kids but we all know that won't happen and it's all because he doesn't want kids. Go be happy with someone ur own age and have lots of babies ^^

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Why would you stay with someone that you knowingly admit is selfish? Not having the kid was one of the best decisions you made with one parent completely not wanting a kid.

    If you want kids and he doesnt then hit the road. Plenty of other guys would want kids.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    If you want kids and he doesn't, it's a deal breaker.

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  • SweetSherry
    12 years ago

    You're pathetic you murdered an innocent human being life is so unfair there are women out there that would sell their souls to get pregnant and you killed your baby because you're weak your boyfriend made you choose between him and his unborn child he tricked you LOL you're probably gonna split up sooner or later cos he's never gonna give you kids now he's got to be the most selfish guy I've ever heard of and you think you can't be without him wow you're a total idiot

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  • helenjewett
    12 years ago

    wow. you're 25? you have so much ahead of you. your man sounds like a douchebag. if you want to have healthy babies in the future, find a younger man. as a man ages, his sperm isn't going to be as potent. if you stick with this douche, you'll have a higher chance of having autistic children. i'm not trying to scare you but i've been reading about that stuff in textbooks. just imagine, if you want to start having kids at 35, he's how old? 52? he's NOT going to have the energy to help you raise a family.

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    • gg1986
      12 years ago

      Thankyou for all your comments, and your right he is an ass and im leaving him so thankyou for taking the time to help me out with your advice.:)

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    He is a horrible human being! Leave him! Have a nice life and kids! You will realize one day that is the right decision! Good luck!

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  • Dawn
    12 years ago

    He is a jerk! leave him, find someone who won't be suck a dick.

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  • rayst
    12 years ago

    Haha he got you good! Well what were you thinking? He's 42...

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  • mayadukkha
    12 years ago

    ^^^exactly^^^ cldnt hv sd it better.

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  • SATC
    12 years ago

    It sounds as though he tricked you into having an abortion by saying you two could have more kids. I would say you have to evaluate how much you want kids, because if you really want them then the best thing to do would be to break the relationship off. Yes, it will be very painful at first but in time you will get over it and find another man with similar interests to you. However, if he is more important to you than future children then stay with him, but you will have to resign yourself to a life just you two, no kids involved.

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