I hate two of my closest relatives, with good reason.

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I KNOW it's "normal" to "hate" your family when you're a teenager and to do so is ungrateful and unfair. But I am now legally an adult, and not all people are decent people.

I think I could honestly say I wouldn't know the meaning of the word "hate" if it wasn't for...

My mother:
-Doesn't care about anything except "health". If I ask her for advice about ANYTHING she somehow links it to health/diet/food supplements.
-Has been forcing me all my life to take 20-30 vitamin tablets every day, taking away priveleges if I don't.
-Fed me dull, identical meals until my dad started cooking, but has stated that if she cooked she would only ever serve two slight variations on the same meal.
-Required ENDLESS persuasion before she would even buy bread or milk.
-Explained sex to me when I was around 3 or 4 in the crudest way possible, using disgusting slang words.
-Asked for hugs and invited me to sleep in her bed when she was completely naked.
-Didn't keep her sex life private.
-Asked if she could see when I told her I was developing pubic hairs (I told her so she would STOP invading my privacy.)

Her son, my half brother, is 13 years older than me, I only see him occasionally now, and he..
-Spent my childhood having screaming arguments with my mother.
-Always talks to me in a disgusting patronising tone that a 5 year old would find annoying and babyish.
-Constantly watches me whenever we're in the same room, waiting for me to do something "wrong".
-Tells me to do things like take my plate to the sink which I've been doing automatically for the last 10 years.
-Starts a full on argument about things like my opinion on a colour or a certain food.
-His version of a conversation is to ask me infinite questions about a topic such as my taste in music for the sole purpose of laughing at my answers.
-Still uses babyish made up words and phrases one or the other of us used when we were very small children, even though no one else in the family does, because he never got past the stage where it *was* an appropriate way to communicate with me.
-Insults my friends who he has never met based on the knowledge that we had one argument years ago, or something.
-Has made every Christmas I can remember unbearable by starting a fight about something the second he wakes up.

There are many more things I could list, but this is probably too long as it is. I hope none of you judge me for this. I'm just looking for guidance and unbiased opinions on how normal this is.

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  • Scarletgrey
    11 years ago

    I actually felt a little jealous when you mentioned your mom is into health. That would be awesome to have a mom into healthy living! At the same time I can see where there would be some problems. The other things your mom and brother did/do is not really normal. It's kind of weird. I think your mom really does care for you, but is showing it in weird ways. She obviously wants you to be healthy, be close to her, and have an open-discussion relationship with her. She just seems to have always gone about it with the wrong methods. Your brother just sounds like a jerk. He seems unstable and unhappy.... All you really can do is accept them for who they are, accept the past and everything that happened for what it was, and if you must (in order to move on in your life) spend much less time around them.

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  • julialynn
    11 years ago

    You are a spoiled ingrate brat if you ask me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'm not sure if the question is, 'are they normal?' -if so, no.

    If the question is, 'is this agood reason to hate family?' -if so, yes.

    Gooooood luck!

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  • AntoniusBlock
    14 years ago

    I know someone who totally has a mom like your mom... I mean the bizarre "health" stuff, mostly--which ends up being completely UNhealthy, at least mentally... Now, it's your mom, so I'll preemptively apologize for saying this, but: she sounds kind of f---ing loony. (Then again, these days, most human beings are, one way or the other.) The sex stuff, though, borders on positively, irredeemably CREEPY. Inviting you to bed, while naked? Insisting on seeing your brand-new adolescent pubic hairs? I just hope she's only one of those early-70's Joy-of-Sex hippies who takes their philosophy too far... and not a bona fide pedophile.

    As for your half-brother: I SERIOUSLY recommend punching him in the fucking face. Christ, he sounds like an asshole!

    P.S. I f---ing HATE the people in my family who ALWAYS have to f--- up Christmas! Passive-aggressive miserable little assholes! Who want to make the world as miserable as they are, and see a chance, when everybody's celebrating Christmas, which is SUPPOSED to be an awesome holiday--I have these sad little f---ers in my family, too!

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  • boarderbabe12
    14 years ago

    that's disgusting. i am so sorry for you. I know hw you feel... I want to cry for you. I think this is a terrible life you have no offense, just stop hanging around them, they are sick assholes

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  • friendofgod
    14 years ago

    ok i would kill them or kill my self if they did that so perfectly normal

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  • iHate
    14 years ago

    I know how you feel.

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  • bushwacker52394
    14 years ago

    I absolutely hate my mother but i still love her as i would any other family member. just try to be nice and not rude

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Better to build a life of your own, learn whatever you can from them, even if it is just what you don't want to do & be like - and, when you are able, put some distance between you and them.

    Maybe once you are out of this you will be better able to tolerate it. Or maybe not. I've walked away from a few people that were just continuously unpleasant myself.

    But see it for what it is and don't hold yourself responsible. Its hardly your fault they act that way.

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  • 26highstreet
    14 years ago

    you mind is destroyed with all that crap thats been going on, best bet is to get your ass out of there pronto

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  • lilmizzshawtybabe
    14 years ago

    no one has the rite to judge you because of that. if my mom did stuff like that i would hate her too. & if i had a brother like that, i would end up punching him in the face.

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  • harachi
    14 years ago

    Yeah I agree, just because you're related to somebody does not mean that they deserve unconditional love. That's a silly idea. We cannot chose who we are related no more than we can choose what country we are born in, or what race we are. Hate away.

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  • Alaxett
    14 years ago

    That is too much, I didn't take the time to read whole of that... all I can say is they are two of horrible models that you shouldn't listen to. Move out, the soon the better.

    However, I'm somehow suspicious about what you said, "not all people are decent people"... from my view of meet alot of people, it's more like "not all people are obnoxious people". Give them a benefit of the doubt, and you'll be shock.

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    My opinion is that...that is awful. Hope you can get out of there soonish.

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  • lulubabe34
    14 years ago

    wow it seems like your going through alot , i dont think your half bother likes you maybe he is jealous of you. i think you should just ignore him and maybe eventually get sick of annoying you and will stop , but the best to get him to stop is not to give him any attention. i wish you the best of luck!!

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