I hate the phrase "making love"

Oh snap. I'm a virgin. AND I'M POSTING ON YOUR TOPICCCC. What now?!

I love my wife Before sex, during sex and after sex so there's no need to MAKE IT...

Were making love in this club in this club ohhhh ohhh ohh were going to make love in this club. muh muh muh making luvvvvvvvvvvvvv.

I have to be in LOVE with the person in order to be the slightest bit aroused. For me, it is making love.

That term weirds me out too. Every time I hear it, I think of stupid love scenes from chick flicks or soap operas with sappy music in the background. It's just too fake to me. Me and my bf tell and show eachother that we love eachother all the time. He doesn't have to say it to me while we're having sex. I'm not that needy.

I hate that term, too.. I get pissed if anyone says it towards me. Like "oh, I want to 'make love to you'" Uh.. I don't 'make love', I would rather have someone say, "I wanna fuck you."

Ugh, though.. 'make love,' there will be no making love. Lol

One thing that bothers me, and I've seen it many times, is that women "love" really easily. The word love is so cheap today. There's 14 year old kids that go out for pizza, call it a date, and the girl says "I love you". Or women in their 20s who have such an insane sense of desperation that they convince themselves they're "in love" with whoever will take them.

To all the ladies out there: if you want to be taken seriously in the arena of "love", quit fucking acting like it's this cheap commodity that is so readily available. Stop acting on your hormones and your weird emotional makeup, and have a little bit of resolve, a little bit of patience. Us men, we fall in love, sure we do. But it's not a quick thing. 90% of us are out for some ass, not a deep emotional bond. The bond matures and strengthens over time.

As for the sex issue, to me it's simple semantics. Women prefer "making love" men prefer, "Hey baby, how about a sandwich and a fucking? You choose the order." in reality, they're two different things. You love your woman 24 hours, 365. I know I love mine. And there's a time and a place for both. Sure, sometimes you wanna cuddle up, make sweet, slow passionate love to her, but by god, you also want that filthy slut to GET SOME as well.

In summation....it really depends on the situation.

I feel the same way. The term "love making" is a complete turn off. Sounds like a 50 year old man trying to sweet talk you.
no thank you.

The phrase sickens me to the core.

"equate "love" with getting all nasty and sticky with a woman."

Wow, how do you enjoy it AT ALL??

Only a couple of people in my life did I ever "make love" with- or even want to. The rest WAS sex. Unfortunately, most of it wasn't good enough, or the men weren't of the quality I would want to keep around long enough to feel like "making love" with.

You actually can when deeply in love [like when you were young and heard about it from some parent, or the Bible, or whoever said it] literally, spiritually, "become one" with someone- like you are having an 'out of body' experience- but together with them. Hard to explain. Guess you would have had to have been there...

Off topic-- I hate high five-ing. Too corny, irritating, embarrassing.

I hate that term too. It sounds so... CRASS and a completely inaccurate way to describe what sex is.

I prefer to shag

littlebunnytreetrunk nice name, calling somebody young. I'm 24 and i hate that saying too, i always have and always will its pretty stupid just say sex

I HATE LOVE ITS SELF GOD I HATE PEOPLE WITH GIRLFRIENDS ITS SICKENING SO MUCH SO IM GOING TO THROW UP IF I HEAR ANYMORE SEX STORIES

I guess it all depends on perspective.If by any chance you havent told your partner about this you should, since probably she is the one using the term. A phrase should'nt piss you off its so trivial and unimportant. There are bigger isues in life than just a phrase. If you having sex without loving the person then its just called sex or F*ck or whatever other word is use to refer to that action. If you feel the phrase bothers you, then it doesnt necesarily mean you are not "normal" its just means you dont like the term. I personally adore that phrase because for me it makes the act of sex more special and not something you do for mear pleasure. When you do it for mear pleasure then its not making love at all, because when you make love even thou you are thinking "oh this feels good" you are also thinking " oh i wish my lover feels pleasured too". It is something mutual. Hope my thoughts could help.

It depends, if you really love her then. .this is a bit confusing but if shes just a fling that your not completly serious about I totally get it. I just straight out hate the phrase, no meaning behind it, I just do

Haha how funny. Guys are so weird. I'm glad my lover isn't like this. Our sex is the best and he tells me he loves me while we do it. But he tells me he loves me all the time. So.... idk but I like the saying "making love" xD It does sound pretty stupid I guess if you really think about it.

I don't know how men feel during it, so this is a womanspoint of view, I have had occasions when I can relate it to 'making love' when the mood is nice, it's dark, he's being gentle & understanding etc etc.
There are other times when its messier & I either think 'woooo this is nice!!' or 'what has sex got to do with love?', again these thoughts depend on atmosphere, what kind of day I've had, how he has approached me, if I'm into it or not, so I see part of where you are comming from.

Basically I think sex, mood, person & atmosphere can really change your thoughts during sex. Not forgetting position & pace, slower & face to face creates more of a 'making love' vibe.

Asscake.

I agree with you to some point.. when my boyfriend and i have sex.. most the time its just sex.. something we do when were both horny as fuck and wanna fix it.
on the other hand.. on certain occasions.. like when either one of us come back for a trip or after a big fight...the sex is different, its more passionate.. i know thats gay and whatever but there are those occasional times where its more passionate.

... for the people who think they are "making love" everyday
HA HA HA ... i feel bad for you.

wow... maybe you should think about telling your girlfriend this. i would really hate to be her. i'm sure this is not always the case with my boyfriend, but he tells me it is out of love, and i would hate to discover otherwise.. it is the greatest feeling for him to just take a second to look in my eyes and tell me he loves me during sex. but all couples aren't the same. i hope you do get to experience the magic of love-making with someone one day, though.

I can't separate the 2. But I also don't like the expression, because most people don't view the act of sexual intercourse as a loving expression between 2 people in love, but rather a carnal urge that is acted on.
I for one, cannot engage in sexual activity with someone I care nothing about, and to this day, I don't "get" how people do it. So yes, I agree, let's stop calling it "making love" because it seldom is.

I disapprove of it too, as far as I know there are various ways of making love, not nessecarily just by having 'intercourse'.

I disagree. To me, sex isn't sex without being in love. It's just .. fucking or whatever. It has no passion and it's always better with passion. If you dont give ashit about the person then you are just screwing them for your own pleasure right? Iv'e only had sex with two different men, both I was in love with when it happened. I believe there are different kind of making love, because there is passionate love, then there's the other ones when your just horny and you fuck the sh** out of themm. but for me, sex it a magical thing.

i hate it too man.

Dude grow up! I mean really is hittin it with her really not at all special as thoug she could be anyone or even your hand for that matter? If so you need some growth, or to find a better chick. Seriously you can bang anyone, but every once in awhile, it should be a culmination of sorts if not you are missing out. Sexuality is not the porn you watch, EVERYONE GROWS UP ONE DAY. AND HONESTLY DUDE IT GETS BETTER THAT WAY

I swear I hate that phrase too. It's ridiculous, just makes me wanna puke. It's a phrase that people often use to fool themselves with. I know I've had some of the best sex ever in my experience, but I would certainly never call it "making love". It was good ol' fashioned brutal deep raw fucking, if you ask me. Anyways, how do you "make" love, especially if it is already there anyways? Makes no sense.

I am guessing you are young. And it takes a while for your emotional maturity to catch up with your physical intimacy so that you can experience them together. Later in life the feeling of love that is separate for you right now will lead you to initiate sex out of that love and while you may still be thinking only about how good it feels while you are doing it, the thing that drove you to do it will be love. Also at some point, you will think of hot stick and nasty and the same thought that you do both your positive emotional feeling with your partner as well as how good it feels to fuck & the idea that it is "gross" will go away. While I admit it is an odd phenomenon that something that feels so good can look so odd and even maybe gross, it does feel good and it is a way and men and women bond and eventually want to marry and even see it as a beautiful act so that they decide one day that they want that act to create their child together. It's just a matter of maturity. It will come. One day you will have feelings so strong for someone emotionally that you want them physically and that is an expression of those feelings and so it's not just sex anymore. This happens right away for women but not for men, so cut your sweetie a break if she's emotional during and after sex and even if you feel like rolling over or leaving soon after, force yourself to hold her a bit. It's not going to kill you and it will make her feel happier. If on the other hand, you have NO feelings what so ever for her and are just using her for sex, you should make sure she knows you guys are just sex partners and nothing more, so she knows enough to stay detached or walk away if she needs more.

Too bad you have such a huge disconnect there. Glad you enjoy rutting like a barnyard animal.

Too bad you have no human connection with your rutting. Your problem.

Haha, dude, I have to agree with you. Not on all of your post but on the hating the phrase. It's the dumbest sounding thing ever and I don't know if anybody really is thinking (during the act) "Ah, how I love her!"

XD

No lie I used to think exactly the same way. But when you find that one woman you're so madly in love with... the thought of "making love" isn't so gross. Trust me

I have to agree with you here. I don't want to have sex just because spark is not there, unless I'm in mood for a one-night-stand. I mean, I'd rather to have an everlasting company than blow it up too early.

But... to think that have sex with a woman is disgusting... is there a problem? You just enjoy it and thank her for share it with you. What she really want is love, not sex. That's a fair exchange, don't you think?

its not normal if you have actually made love before, which it sounds like you never have. making love is hardly hot, nasty, or sticky...lol
there is 4 types of fornication: F+++ing, which is rough and nasty, SEX, which is sultry and spicy, Making love: which is kindred and loving, then there's the mediatative kind that is for bringing you closer to GOD. we tend to F++k and have SEX more than anything. We get kinky, tired, pound it in, beat it up, make it nasty, funky, and sticky, in these ways. we enjoy it, but making love is slower, calmer, more relaxing. its deeper, a connection thing. none of that messiness needed. no noise no hard thrusting hardly any seat. its kindred. its LOVE! and the meditative kind is just that.

I'm about 99.9%% in agreeing with you there, I don't believe that sex = love, infact the amount of woman I have 'F*ck and chucked' can't be counted on both hands, and I love just having sex, meaningless, emotionless sex, its great. now the 99.9%% is because I will just f*ck a girl like a rabit, with one girl things went a little wrong when after we had sex, she referred to it as making love, she never heard from me again!! However, I can say on one experiance, me and a girl made love, we had previously had the sticky sex, and this time we took it really slow and for the first time in sex I actually came, so when we were finished we had a few more glasses of wine, spoken highly of eat other and agreed for the first time, we both had made love. Sadly it wasn't meant to be and we continue to this day to have sex, but we never make love!!