I hate my son, iin?

He was born as a blank canvas. YOU raised him. YOU provided his environment, YOU disciplined him, and YOU taught him everything he knows. Don't hate him. Hate yourself.

He's only 4 for Christs sake. A lot of children of that age have a very low attention span so don't expect him to really pay attention to you until he gets older. With him not following rules he's probably a child that gets bored easily and has to find ways of entertaining himself. Another thing, are you afraid he doesn't love you just because he doesn't give you hugs?

Yeah you know what....just throw in the towel. Taking care of your own child should never be an obligation. Give him to someone who's more deserving and so that way you can continue to make babies and when they aren't perfect you can give them away again and again. Children aren't just some math equation that you can erase if you get the answer wrong.

You should see a doctor about postpartum ...

Dont expect a 4 year old to pay attention and follow rules...

I've been on here long enough to see a handful of similar posts -- responders lash out at the uncaring mother and the mother fires back angrily. I, too, can't help but side with this innocent child. However, I hope that the mere fact that you will confess these feelings is evidence that this situation could change for the better. What kind of relationship would you like to have with your son? Make that your goal. Please don't give up on him.

But neither of you will ever be perfect. Your son was born with certain traits and characteristics that make him who he is. And the environment he is growing up in is shaping who he is. If you do not show love to your son, he knows it. I don't know why you'd expect a child to show you love if you do not do the same.

I love my three children, but they are all so different. Sometimes I watch my oldest's bossy ways and can't imagine where these traits came from and I don't like it at all. However, I try to see the "flip sides" of everything; for example, I believe if she can get a handle on her bossiness she is going to be a fabulous leader, and that is a strength. I try my best to help her be lovable, to nurture who she is as an individual, and to help her develop her talents. I fail often, but this is my goal.

You clearly need more support. How is his relationship with his father, grandmother, aunt, etc.? Do you have close relationships you can use to help you through this, or do you feel isolated? Could you be deoress Join a parenting support group, or take a parenting class. Talk to a counselor.

And if you truly believe there is something wrong with your son, have him evaluated.

The comment was helpful. You can't expect a child to behave like an adult. At what age did you listen to parents and follow rules?

He is ur fucking son. that's fucked up. He'll naw

Maybe you are raising him wrong, there's not enough info for me to really comment, or maybe he had aspergers or something, which makes it hard for him to interact with others, which wouldn't be his fault. I only say this as my friends daughter never made eye contact, wasn't loving, was disobedient and broke rules from an early age. She had 3 others which were totally different, yeah they pushed the boundaries like all kids but this one was different altogether. Turns out she's aspergic. She's 16 now, they have a good relationship but still she's very different from the others. Only you know if you give love and affection freely and hit a brick wall or you are expecting more back than you are putting in.......

poor kid

Sure best is to have zero expectations from our kids then they will post treads here "I HATE MY MOTHER" ... Normal is to hate sometimes those who we normally love ... mothers are not exceptions because they are human...unless you never noticed.

And if he don't love u u show him love and really love ur son no matter what he is doing he will always be your son

You should love your son regardless of anything if ur going to hate ur son then wat was the point in laying on ur back and having a baby then if u were going to hate him anyways wat kinda mother are u. There is a 17 year old girl that got told to her face by her mother that she hated her that she didn't love her own daughter and that 17 year old was in tears and was heart broken I mean she was torn in to pieces. The girl never returned to that house again

The thing is, toddlers just kind of suck. Plus, not everyone was made to be a parent and not everyone likes kids. Don't let these people make you feel guilty, motherhood does not come naturally to everyone.

I think your expecting for your son to act like an adult, he's only four. he knows nothing, you need to work at being a better parent

This is an old post and hopefully things have gotten better since you posted. I'm sorry so many people are lashing out with kneejerk reactions. I bet what you're going through is soo frustrating, and it sounds like you are trying. Have you considered getting him tested for autism? He sounds like he could be on the spectrum; getting a diagnosis could help you all get better and make it easier for you to accept his 'quirks'.

you really do love your son no matter if you say you do or not. your son may not listen or give you hugs because he is four. also you really do not need to be writing such awful things about your son, because if he grows up and somehow finds this he will be devastated. also if something were to happen to him even if it were minor you would probably feel devastated.

When i turned 11 my mom started hating me she would be nice 2 my brother and i would get in trouble 4 what he did and it tore me and my mom apart she was never there when i was in school programs she admited tht she hated me a million times and all i could do was cry at night besides he is only 4 he will grow more mature just plz dont giv up on him yet

*depressed. Woops. Watching said bossy child while typing, am very distracted, and didn't get a chance to edit before accidentally posting. Hope I made sense.

The less feelings you have for him? Uh...

Ignore the little brat,dont waste excess energy on anyone not worth ur time

That's is very childish. not to love your own son. I have never heard of such.

U just need to do it like the old school did it and bust that butt it worked for me and I am a witness to that believe u me