I hate my parents

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I internet searched I hate my life and funny how "I Hate My Mother" came up. I never wanted to admit it...my therapist says that I can love my mother but I don't have to like her. I think the love has been sucked out of me and all I have is anger and resentment. My entire life I have been trying to get my parents to be proud of me. But the thing is, I have been doing everything they wanted me to do even if it made me miserable. Or I did things to try to prove them wrong and getting my self in bad situations which I felt completely horrible about. All my decisions have been driven by guilt or by the need to prove them wrong. I do not have the ability to make a decision for myself now because I don't know who I am making the decisions for. Parents should want better for their children...if their lives are wonderful, they should want their children's lives to be even more wonderful. If their lives are crap, then they should definitely want more for their children. They always said they wanted better for us, but really they just wanted the same miserable life they felt they had. My mother constantly told us how she hated her life and she cursed people for her life. Well, I was part of her life and my entire life I never felt loved or wanted by anyone. And it didn't make the situation any better when she said things like, "I wish I had an abortion" or "I should have had a hysterectomy before I got married." Now I am so afraid to have kids of my own because I don't want to do the same things to my own kids. The same anger that resides in my mother is now in me. My father just enabled her behavior and all he could do is yell at me growing up. He never talked to me about things. I was never close with him which I always wish I had been. Now he expects me to talk to him about things. All they have taught me is how to hold my feelings in because they are not important, yell at everyone when I do get so overwhelmed with my feelings and to feel guilty about being the person I am. That is their great legacy.

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  • JustARandomNerd
    9 years ago

    I love and tolerate (tolerate more than anything) my parents. They are super stressful and always confide in me their financial problems and gossip to me about intimate details of their friends and my sister. I occasionally find myself breathing fast but that's about it when u get stressed from them.

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    • JustARandomNerd
      9 years ago

      Also my father is doped up on pain meds and have a gossipy mother.

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  • Pika-girl
    9 years ago

    Well, I guess... I don't hat my parents, but also I don't love them as much... I forgave my dad for leaving us already, but I can never forgive my mom for kicking him out. She said she loved us, but I think those were just words. She used to beat us up and calls us names. She would say that she wanted different children and hurt us emotionally ad physically... But when my mom would, like, hit me or something, I was strong enough to fight back. But they wouldn't be as effective as her's because I don't really want to hurt her. But also, the last life lesson I learnt from my dad before he left was to "Not be weak like Daddy" and to "Stay strong" (My mom didn't take that information seriously, though). But whenever I tell myself that, I would end up crying and I feel like I let him down... I don't think I like any part of my mom's family except my sister (She considers herself as part of Mom's side and I consider myself as a part of Dad's side... I'm like a remain of my dad that will stay on my mom's side! ...My mom loves my sister more than me, though.)! I love my sister! Although we argue a lot and fight, we would always become best buds, like, 5 minutes after fighting. :D

    Well, yeah...

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    This is a FAQ here:

    http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-i-hate-my-parents-even-though-they-are-not-abusive-93559/

    http://isitnormal.com/story/i-hate-my-parents-48504/

    http://isitnormal.com/story/why-do-i-hate-my-parents-so-much-57399/

    http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-hate-your-parents-76878/

    http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-i-hate-my-parents-71314/

    http://isitnormal.com/story/iin-that-i-hate-my-parents-83938/

    http://isitnormal.com/poll/is-it-normal-for-me-to-hate-my-parents-178945/

    http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-i-cant-stand-my-parants-137547/

    There are also a lot of 'I hate my mom' and 'I hate my dad' and 'I hate my family' posts, but you can find them yourself.

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