I hate my mother

Both my parents died young.

Oh well.

Too bad for them.

Me?

No great loss.

For various reasons.

Do what is best for YOU!!!!!!!!

MAYBE things will improve with time; maybe not.

Just do NOT ever feel guilt over what for you has been and is and will be beyond your control.

Do NOT antagonize kinfolk purposefully.

Ignore them. Shun them.

Live your life seeking what is best for YOU and those you CARE about.

And...... NO REGRETS over what you had/have no control over.

Seek out and grasp the good. Embrace it.

Not easy but shove aside past "bad."

Leave it behind.

Dwell upon the past too much and that which was bad continues to "own" you.

Good luck!!!!

GIRL IM 18 AND YOU GOT MY VOTE.
fuck it when i get a serious boyfrieng or a husband, im either telling everything and tell him i cut ties with her or just say shes dead. end of the story

my story if anyone is interested
THIS IS REALLY LONG

today i got into another huge fight with my bitchy mother because she claims im being too rude and i talk back. to the point she threatened to kick me out the house and not bother sending me to college.
ok WHY I HATE HER
well, everything was rosy and peachy until i turned 9 . my family is fucked up. very fucked up. my father is a sex addict who polygamies because he just cant get enough sex from ONE WOMAN. so one fateful night, i was sleeping with my parents on their bed. now, at that time i was an oblivious kid who thought she had a happy family and tried to be normal. always smiling and hugging them oh boy how stupid and naive i was. and now that i think back, i knew there was something wrong with me. my parents would have really loud sex. and i dont know how but since i was 9 i was realllllyyyy horny? idk i liked to touch myself anyway nothing wrong with that i didnt bother anyone. back to the "night", i was still awake and it was really late. my father was sleeping between me and my mother. and i think he whispered to her that he wanted sex and she groaned and went back to sleep. and then he turned to me and poke me with his willy ( i cant bring myself to use other words, im 18 now and i still feel sick whenever i think about it ) and i was surprised by this thing poking me and touched it. my parents described sex as "playing games" so i was like oh maybe i can play the game too?? could you blame a child who wanted to know about the games her parents played??!! so, my father whispered that we should move to the next room, so we went. and then when he was sliding his willy in hetold me i cant tell anyone even my mother and i just said okay. he didnt put his full length in as my mother woke up and was sleepily entering the room. my father quickly rolled off and pretended nothing happened. i did the same. all of us went to sleep. and the weeks went by like nothing happened, until one day she suddenly asked "has your father done anything to you?" i said no. "touched you? anywhere?" i said no . i was reading a book and the air got thicker and awkward. one look on my face and she went "its okay you can tell me. he's not suppose to do that. i wont get mad" so i told her and all hell broke loose. she dragged me to the clinic and the doctor said i ripped my hymen and she threw a fit. where im from , virginity is this huge thing and if you want a happy marriage you should be a virgin when you marry. at first i didnt think of it much. but suddenly she changed. she fought with my father and told EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY ON HER SIDE ( PARENTS, SIBLINGS, AUNTS) THAT I GOT RAPED BY MY FATHER. i didnt know better until now that i have been given sympathetic looks and sympathy. i had this weird feeling of emptiness when i turned 10. i started fighting in school and my gardes slipped. i was a straight A student and loved learning but not anymore.

and then life got worse. i went to sleep at my aunt's ( mother's sister) house and one night i woke up feeling someone roaming my thighs. i opened my eyes and saw her husband ( not in my bloodline) sitting beside me and i gasped as he pushed a finger inside me. he suddenly got up and left the room. i was shocked . how could he do that. my cousins were sleeping right next to me. the next day, i was quiet. i didnt mean to . i tried to be normal but my aunt susoected something when i didnt eat much so i told her. and she yelled at her husband when he got home and he denied it. i was speechless. my aunt called my mum and she came over. yelling to me, to tell everything again. she believed me but blamed it on me. she said " you should have locked the door" . again i was speechless and just nodded. when i went back. she told me she cant get a divorce becuase my father will kill her if she reported him. he is well known doctor. funny, how someone who is suppose to help people would also rape his own daughter. that BITCH said " you showuld have known better. why are you so stupid? you must have let him on." how would you feel if your own father raped you and took away your virginity that was suppose to be "sacred". fuck that. my mother and i moved and i tranferred into an all girls school until i graduated from high school.

in high school, everyone was getting boyfriends from outside and i was the awkward girl who didnt know what to say to people. i got depressed and put on a lot of weight when we moved. now this bitch kept saying "huh look at you. you're ugly, stupid and fat.who would marry you? not even a virgin, you'll get divorced the very next day!" i cried so hard that night. all i wanted was a happy family. dreams of having my own happy family that could make up for my fucked up one were shattered. fastforward to now. im still quite fat, 66 kg for 162 cm. everyday she comes to me syaing how all her friends want to see me so she shows a picture and they say " she looks like you! but isnt she pretty! ohmy.. shes so fat!!" and im like I DONT CARE WHAT YOUR GODDAMN JUDGEMENTAL FRIENDS THINK. she calls me fat and taunts and pushes all my buttons then acts the victim when i get annoyed. oh the pitiful wronged mother when her daughter doesnt "respect her". how the fuck am i suppose to respect the bitch that BLAMED ME FOR A CHILD RAPE AND KEEPS CALLING ME FAT STUPID UGLY WHEN IM THE ONE WHO GOT INTO COLLEGE. I HATE HER. I keep telling myslef that if i kill her, i'll only get arrested so let her die or get killed by someone else. she's a two faced bitch that even acts innocent infront of her siblings and expects me worship her. im counting days where i can graduate and move out and just cut her out of my life. she is just toxic to me.

I am 25 years old and I still live with my parents as I do not have the funds until I grauate in Oct. to do so. I too have always hated my mother. Everything about her. Just the other day (keep in mind I'm 25) I realized I had no skirts in my closet. She went on a rampage and stole them all from me and gave them away because she said she was "saving me from myself." I am in no way some street walking slut. I am merrily a 25 year old beautiful woman who likes to look it. I honestly can't wait to get out of my house so I can banish her from my life. She constantly lies and is a spiteful, condensending, vendictive bitch to me. Anytime I get upset about something such as "the skirt incident" she screams at me how I'm crazy and I need medication. I think she's obviously the one who needs medication and if I need any it's because of years of dealing with her unstable psychoness. I caught her cheating on my father when I was on 7th grade and I have a feeling that's where a lot of her lack of so called "motherly love" stems from. I can see the gleam in her eyes when I run into any type of normal life situations such as getting my car towed or being depressed about a boyfriend breaking up with me. She immediately goes to her friends to gossip about how much of a piece of shit I am. I once missed 2 days of class in college and she went around complaining to all of her friends and our family that I had quit and wasn't going to graduate anymore. I honestly hate her with every ounce of my blood and I can't wait to have her out of my life.

Its normal, im the same similar situation, hate that womans guts i want to kill her.

I cannot fucking stand my mother. She needs to be jailed, seriously. My father took my virginity at 11 years old and she allowed him to rape me until he impregnated me at 16 years of age. I filed a court case against him at 10 and they returned me back to my family's home under the condition that he could not live with us. My bitch of a mother had my pedophile father waiting outside for me when I got home so he could fucking threaten me immediately. This bitch failed me on so many levels and has the audacity to be high and mighty. My life was a living hell. My father went on the run when family found out I was pregnant at 16. My mother helped him and one day, after I had the abortion, she was driving me to school and I saw him standing on the side of the road close to our home. Turns out the bitch was letting him stay there while we were at school. Of course I came home and got beat the fuck up, nearly choked to death, and raped. He was convicted of incest and rape and got 40 years. She still talks to him to this day and sends him money monthly. I'm done with this bitch. She can kiss my ass man that's no way to treat a human let alone a child. Pretentious devil!

I'm 55 and I hate my mother, always have and always will. However, I feel an obligation to look after her especially since my father, whom I dearly loved, passed away 15 years ago and my brother is totally incapable of looking after her affairs. Yet I resent that I am stuck and as a single divorced mother of two do not have the freedom to find and live with someone I love because of having to look after her. So now thanks to my mother, who in my childhood had no issues handing me over to a peadophile, still manages to destroy any ounce of happiness I can have in my senior years. I hate her all the more for it and feel very resentful but helpless. I want to leave but I fear it would make me look like the bad person for leaving an old woman in incapable hands of my brother. I feel so stuck and want to get out this situation so badly but don't know how.

I understand exactly how you feel. My mother and father split up when I was about 10 years old, and honestly, I hate the pair of them. My mother is a narcissistic, controlling, self-obsessed woman and my father is a ridiculous liar. When they split up, I left to live with my father first, until I was 15, then I went to live with my mother. From 15 until I was 18, those were probably the worst times in my life. My mother would just have fits of rage for no reason at all, yelling at me, hurling various objects at me, calling me different obscenities. At 18, I was told I need to be conscripted into the Russian army (I'm 3/4 Russian with a Russian citizenship). Naturally, I jumped at that opportunity. At that point, my mother tried her very hardest to try and deter me from that, but nothing she did worked. At 18, I left for the military for mandatory service for a year. After that, I asked for a 3 year contract, just to keep me from living with her again. I served for another 3 years and saved up money for a decent rent and a spot in culinary school. I'm 23, nearly 24, half way through my culinary degree and I've never spoken to her again. I've blocked her on pretty much all social media platforms possible, but she periodically calls me up and leaves voice messages trying to guilt me, saying things like "I miss you", "Why don't you talk to me anymore", "Don't you love me?" That sort of stuff. Despite her pleading, I've never spoken to her at all, and I never want to.

I feel you, I am always the waiter in my family. I am usually in the dust while my older brother and sister get all the attention. My mom hates me and I hate her. She can't even buy a pair of $2 shoes from the thrift shop without using the same excuse every time (I am broke). Meanwhile, she can buy what my brothers want's which $262 shoes that he is obviously going to get dirty. Even till this day I am still hated on.
So don't feel like you are the only, cause there many people (myself included) that hate their mothers.

i hate my mother,,,,,she is a true bitch.....

I know this was posted a while ago, but let me tell you you are not alone. I'm glad I found this site and created an account because I could relate to many of these posts.

My mom is a narcissist who only cares about herself, is manipulative, hurtful, hateful towards her kids and family, but acts like a saint to anyone that does not know her. People have no idea that she is actually just putting on an act.

Throughout my teenage years (20 now), her opinions really hurt me. Over time, I realized she was a worthless disgusting human being whose opinions don't matter to me anyway. I would give this advice to you. Don't care about what a horrible person says or think about you. If they are this awful, have nothing to do with them. Yes, you should respect your parents, but don't spend a lot of time with people who have evil intentions.

If I have kids, I plan to have them secretly without my mom knowing. No way will she see my kids or be able to have an influence on them. It's your kid, so it's your decision. My mother is very controlling and wants things to be either her way or the highway. But guess what, it's my life, I'm over the age of where she can force me to do things and tell me how to live my life. You're old enough to take care of yourself so do what is right and do not let your mom affect your life. Do not be affected by such awful people because they are not worth you time. Hope this helps and I wish you good luck.

I hate my mother to.Evil,nasty,manipulitive witch.I wish she was dead.I have been abused since I was 5.It stopped when I couldnt take any more and thumped her in the face 5 years ago.No regrets.

Aww dear, I wish I could give you a hug & your ma a strong punch in the face. You have all the rights to be happy & cheerful but you seem so stressed out. This shall not be good for the baby. Be happy, you're away from her. Concentrate on your baby, you exactly know how to bring him up, as you've dealt so much with your ma. Give him all the love you can & you'll be such a great ma, I'm so sure. Just keep yourself busy, you've got so much to do. I think the part of being crushed & frustrated is this much only, from now on, start your life on a positive note. Don't even think that you have that woman in your life. Forget her. I have faith you'll be a strong & happy woman.
Take care

V.v I understand I truly hate my mother as well,2 more years till I'm 18 I'm moving out ,I'm already planning where I'm going to live,she isit going to see my children either.!

I didn't read it all but I'm sure your reasons are justified. Just like I hate my father. I hope to someday find out he is dead. Haven't talked to that bastard in over 10 years and I want it that way.

Honestly your story is very shocking and..damn I'm speechless I don't know what to say. Why would a mother treat her kids like that?? Have you ever talked to her or tried to find out where that hate comes from?

Alright, you need to move out and cut off all communications with her for a few years may be then things will change, she'll realize her mistake, your anger will dissipate a little bit and you'll be maturer and able to have a heart to heart talk with her. Am I making any sense here?

And yeah you have to get your little sister out of that hell without feeding her more hatred toward your mother, call social services or something.

The things that she has done to you sound horrific and for one that women should not have been allowed to have children, EVER. The only advice that i could actually give you is to make sure you treat your child with love and care for him/her and dont ever let it go through the experience you unfortunately had to go through.

My second point, as crazy as it sounds, your mother will always be your mother. None of us pick who are parents are going to be. You may not be as fond of her as a normal mother daughter relationship should be but you still have the responsibility of asking about her every now and then. For your child's on good i think contact with your mother and her/him should be limited, and by limited i mean NONE.