I hate my mother

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Feeling the same way about my mother. Everything she says, does and like someone else on here said even the way she walks is annoying.And she loves to play the "victim"... She claims she does so much for me it's a fucking joke. She's unemployed with nothing to do all day. I'm 8 months pregnant and have a 4 yr old. So if i ask her to come over and help she has "things to do"...like what are you doing watching a lifetime movie!?...She is constantly complaining about everything. Being tired (she sleeps in till 11am everyday)...Her back hurts...I can't stand listening to it! I'm 8 months pregnant work as a hairdresser on my feet all day and I have to listen to her complain. Then when she does come over to help she's looking for an excuse to get the hell out. Like why bother and everytime I'm around her where always fighting. I have alot of resentmet towards her she never played with me as a child and I see her do the same with my son. She's just lazy. She's very cheap also, even to what I spend my money on. She thinks I shouldn't throw my son a birthday party because it's too pricey....Like are you kidding me!?... It just brings me back to my childhood all over. We weren't poor just no one gave a shit I would wear the same four shirts to school because She was either to lazy or too cheap to buy me new ones. Not to mention my raging acholic father bascially raised me because she just couldn't be bothered because she was just "too tired" when she got home from one of her dead end jobs. My father is a whole nother issue, but really dealing with her can you blame the guy for drinking!?...Sorry so long have to vent....Is this normal? I know I am a 26 yr old adult and my husband says i just need to get passed everything and move on with or with out her...but it's hard when she calls 5 times a day and lives 10 mins away...what should i do?

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  • vent4health
    10 years ago

    See a therapist if you can. "Getting past" something many times requires the help of a professional - it's not something you can just snap out of. If someone makes you feel lousy and bad about yourself - stay away from them. Why not just ease your mother out of your life? Seeing her is stressful and causes unhappiness. Who wants that? They don't change. My mother is only happy when her children are unhappy. You're an adult - there's no law that says you have to see her or like her for that matter. You're not a bad person and your feelings are valid. This cycle will never end as long as she's alive. I say keep her at arm's length. When she calls you're "busy". I feel for you.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    so does stewey

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Listen to your husband. Limit your contact because she is not helpful, is a burden, and evokes long standing (and understandable) resentment.

    Its not all or nothing. Just put limits on how much contact: she phones: "I'm busy right now and will call you later. Good bye." Etc....

    Put your time into developing supportive, non-toxic relationships. Have a happy maternity & focus on being the parent your children need!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Agreed with bravo

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Sounds like a loving mother to me

    You are pregnent
    Stop blaming your wonderful mother for your stressed honey

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  • vintagebeauty224
    13 years ago

    WOW, im sorry to hear that. it sounds like your way too stressed and that shouldent be especially concidering your 8 months pregnent! i think you should relax and try to talk to your mom about how your feeling, or how she makes you feel. just be patient and try to listen to how she feels too. i dont know weather your religious or not, but alot of times reading the bible helps. pray to jesus to help and he most likly will. it just takes time, have patience and God Bless:)

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