I hate my mother...

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Well, for as long as I can remember my mother has had OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Everyday when I get home from school she would take these clorox wipes and wipe down everything I had with me that day (Games, Laptop, textbooks, Backpack, etc...) and I had to take a bath and wash myself before I can be anywhere else except for my room in the condo...she had these stupid rules such as don't sit on the sofa with "outside clothes" , don't touch the dresser because that's where keep our "outside stuff" (wallets, keys etc...). She also has this "cleaning schedule" she lives by everyday and if I'm not out of the house by 9AM she starts complaining and yelling about me being lazy and not wanting her to be happy and gong on and on about her back pain and trying to guilt trip me into leaving. OH and about her "back pain" , she's been complaining about it since I was in 3rd grade, and always seems completely fine (i.e. not in pain...seems kind of "fake-ish"...She went to the hospital countless times and the doctor has always said that there's nothing wrong with her back and it's just all in her head...well, aside from the OCD and fake back pain she always goes into my room when I'm not home and throws away something she thinks "I don't need" anymore. EVERY TIME I go into my room there is ALWAYS something missing... As a child my mother was very rich and went to this really snooty private school...She's ALWAYS boasting about this snooty high school that she had to work her ass of getting into AND YO KNOW WHAT? SHE NEVER EVEN GRADUATED!!!I went to a normal public high school and SHE'S ALWAYS DEGRADING ME ABOUT IT! saying that I'm a fat stupid pig that could have attended a better school and that I have no life...etc...( I weighed like 170 pounds) and I barely looked "fatter" than the average person...And when I "degrade" back at her she starts yelling and crying saying that it's not fair and BLAH BLAH! AND MY FUCKING DAD TAKES HER SIDE EVERY TIME! my dad is a whole other story...he is the most impatient person I have ever met...he is ALWAYS road raging in the car, he HATES waiting for ANYTHING...even the other day at the movies he got tired of waiting in line and started yelling. it was so embarrassing...and also the TINIEST things could set him off like a bomb...I always figured he's like that because he's irish. I mean the typical irish stereotype is "angry drunk man" is it not? My dad's impatience mixed with my mom's OCD does not make a very pretty couple. they're always fighting...and not mention my dad is 12 years older than my mom...it's so creepy. look, I didn't list all of her weird "OCD rules" or her other quirks that bug me because if I did I could go on like this all night long but I can tell you this... I hate my mother. Is it normal? oh I forgot to mention, everything she says she can't say it just once...I mean if she tills me something like "can you go do something tomorrow" she'll come in my room at least every ten minutes to tell me the same thing until I go do it...and she always "loops" when she talks...like someone is hitting an invisible "replay button"...well is it normal that I hate my mother...If you're going to give me an answer like "you should respect your mother" and "your mother is always right so just suck it up and deal with it" then don't even answer...

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  • Elmanta
    10 years ago

    I wouldnt really call it hatred , i would just call it anger

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  • charli.m
    10 years ago

    That does sound like an incredibly stressful and shitty situation...however, OCD that manifests in such an extreme way is an illness - it's not something she has any control over. To the rest of us, it just seems like fucking crazy behaviour, but to her, it's an uncontrollable compulsion, no matter how irrational. I've never lived with anyone who had OCD like that, but I knew someone who had the same level of behaviours, and even just dealing with him for a few hours was exhausting and stressful.

    Your dad is probably stressed from the situation, hence his behaviour.

    There's not a lot you can do to change their behaviour. All you can do is move out as soon as you're able, and maybe look into some counselling at your school to help you deal with the stress it puts on you.

    Good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    one thing jumps out at me about your story...she goes into your room and throws things out...put a stop to this immediately, warn her that things will turn really nasty with you if she goes in your room while your not home.. say it with conviction and mean it, if you come home and she has been in your room ,,,run straight in hers and start knocking things off shelves and screaming in a blind rage , scare her with the intensity of your emotions...this is my advice

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    • charli.m
      10 years ago

      Thing is, that's just going to make her worse. I totally agree that it's not acceptable behaviour - for your average person, but this is an uncontrollable urge caused by mental illness. In particular, messing with the belongings of a person with this level of OCD is only going to exacerbate the problem. It'll create more stress, which will in turn make the behaviours and compulsions more pronounced.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        u are the voice of reason i lost my temper with her going in the room, mental illness or not i would use some aversion therapy in relation to my bedroom if i was op

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        • charli.m
          10 years ago

          Yeah it sounds like a shitty situation to live with. I honestly don't know what I'd do in their place, full time living with it.

          Also I guess I'm desensitised by my (non OCD) grandmother having done similar things with my belongings my whole life hah.

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  • extermination66
    10 years ago

    dude, stand up for yourself, even if she starts to give you shit. i've never lived with someone who has OCD but you have to do something. and the throwing shit out of your room? prevent her from doing it. try to go day-to-day living your own way. and talk to your dad. he needs it.

    good luck.

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