I hate my ex, dont miss him, dont want him back, but still have sympathy

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I hate him for all the horrible shit he's done to me while we were together and I don't want him back at all, ever. But I can't stop thinking about him and feeling bad for him because honestly his life is fucking shit and even though he was emotionally abusive and manipulative he believes he truly loved and needed me. He's been suicidal and a drug addict, and probably feeling worse than ever. He may even be dead right now for all I know (I surely hope not). The only feeling i have for him is sympathy. Over the years of trying to help I realize there is nothing I can do. but I can't stop worrying about him. I don't want him to die, I want him to get better. But he wont and it makes me so sad. IIN? Should I stop caring? and how?

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  • prettybaby
    5 years ago

    it’s normal to feel sympathy for someone going through a rough time BUT i also think that it’s good that you arent using that to excuse the way he treated you. just don’t worry about him too much, as you said there’s nothing you can do so there’s no point in dwelling on it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Sure, you can have sympathy for him, and his personal struggles. However, you need to go no contact on his crazy ass. You can wish him well all that you want, and you can even pray for him, but please don't make yourself available to him. Beware of this crazy psycho guy, because he's a manipulator! Don't let him drag you back in again. If he tells you he's suicidal just call 911!

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