I hate my boyfriends son.

Hi everyone,

This will sound bad to people that have not been through this situation or similiar but i hate my boyfriends awful kid.

Hes 4.

He has him every other weekend.

Where to start?! He is spoilt rotten all the time.

He doesnt understand and is never told the wors no.

He never says please or thank you.

Will wake us up at 5am wanting to play with a game.

He ALWAYS misses the toilet seat.

He thinks all your belongings are his and will mess them up.

He is louder than a normal kid.

Has atleast 4 tantrums in a day.

My partner lets him run and SCREAM past the bedroom when i try to sleep.

He says he wants to go home if his dad doesnt give him everything he wants.

He wets himself and the bed for attention.

He tells other kids to go away and not play with his toys.

When ever my partner says hea going to pick him up i dread it. He is an awful child. I love his dad but everytime i have ever brought theore annoying issues up he tells me to tell him off.

So i find more wee on the stupid bathroom floor. This happens atleast 3 times a day. So the brat is playing on his game and i raise my voice just a little and tell him to stop weeing on the floor. The brat stares at me weirdly then continues playing his game. My partner then yells at me not to tell his kid off.

My mum told me if two parent figures disagree to never for do it infront of the child.

The child needs to stop being such a terror :(

Its driving me insane. His voice and his pick presence makes my skin crawl.

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Comments ( 11 )
  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    quit cleanin up after him

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  • pixie44

    I would never allow my kids to just pee where ever they want? Their kid is not a fucking dog it's a human and he needs to learn respect and manners and good behavior. I would try making him having to go potty into a game. Put a cheerio or fruit loop in the toilet and tell him that if he hits the cereal while peeing he wins.
    I'd invite some of your man's friends over when his kid is over. Preferably friends of his that have kids of their own. Let them see the situation as well and maybe you will have people to back you up when you talk to him about it.

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  • RoseIsabella

    So leave...

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  • SofakingLo

    Hes only 4 years old. Everything hes doing sounds like normal 4 year old stuff.

    Sounds like you need to stop being impatient and take a different approach. I used to hate my nephew for all of the same reasons and then some. Then i realized hes not a terror, hes a kid. He doesn't know better. So instead of getting all impatient and annoyed just calm down and try to teach him in a fun way. And if he makes you that angry then remove YOURSELF from the environment.

    Thats your bfs kid. You can change bfs. He can't change kids. Either learn to get along with him, or leave if you're gonna just resent him.

    If you're serious about your relationship then you have the perfect opportunity right here to bond with the kid so he'll regard you as an actual step mother when he grows up. And if you're not serious then just leave the house every other weekend and let your bf enjoy the time with his son.

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  • italianwoman338

    It's probably not going to work out between you two.

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  • Nokiot9

    How many parents are complete failures? And just lump all the misbehavior that they enable as a "learning disability" like autism or ADD or aspbergers. What a crock of shit. Take some responsibility for ur kid and smack the shit out of them when they deserve it. Do us all a favor. Rain down some unholy dark ages shit on their bitch asses. Lol

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    • Hyakume

      that's the main problem, he is not her kid and the kid's dad is all defensive about it. the problem is not her, it's his dad being just a failure at teaching respect.

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      • Nokiot9

        Yeah. U gotta tread lightly when ur trying to tell someone they aren't raising their kid right.

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  • Ladybug90

    I dated a man with a child who was like this when he was young. He now is constantly in and out of jail on and off of drugs, etc. Your partner should start being a parent or just save up for bail money and a really good attorney instead of college!

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  • uhyeah1990

    The kid is a brat. You shouldn't have to put up with this shit.this is not normal to be peeing all over the place at four! I baby sit two four year olds and neither of them do that!My parents are pretty cool and laid back but I would have totally been sorry if I acted like that and I am not that old.

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  • Satc95

    Thank you both for the positive comments.

    It's really getting on top of me.
    The bathroom stinks of wee every time the terror is down as my BF thinks wiping it with a towel is cleaning it.

    He gets so defensive. It's like he is crazy. Always bosting how incredibly smart his kid is when infact i babysat a lovely toddler for a few months half the terrors age but 3 times smarter.

    When my BF told his ex over the phone about the wee, she just started laughing the cheecky bi***.

    If that was my kid i would be embarrased and apologetic.

    The kid has no manners.
    When ever he arrives im very welcoming and warm, say hi, offer a drink but he just gives me this creepy stare and ignores me.

    My BF said the other month that he doesnt think i like his kid very much but why would i.

    If that was a grown man acting that way you would tell them to get out, but because hes a spoilt little kid i have to grin and bare it.

    Hes here tonight, already weed on the floor 3 times, weed in the bath, had over 5 tantrums, broke the xbox controller, treated my cats awfully. Its endless

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