I hate my boyfriend, is it normal?

So I've been with my boyfriend 2 years, question is why can't I let him go? I know it's probably been asked a lot but I hate him, I cry pretty much 50% of weekends.

So story is, we met and it was a bit rocky to start with then things got great, brilliant couldn't be happier! Unfortunately things started getting weird we'd argue a lot about things and he'd go out drinking with his friends. Don't get me wrong I don't mind but it's the fact half the time we would arrange to do something I'd be ready and waiting and few hours pass to realise he's not actually coming or we ain't doing anything so I've pretty much wasted all that time waiting! We'd argue about it and not see each other that day or night.

We both work full time during the week so I usually see him once or twice for an hour or two, some weekdays he's all nice and lovely but soon it's the weekend I'll try & try to make plans to spend time with him that's not an hour during the week but he'd rather be with his friends and drink he says he doesn't need to see me all weekend 'which I never do anyways, I usually ask for one day or few hours'.

I'm 23 years old and he still seems immature, tells me he loves me and never wants to lose me but really he gives me the impression he doesn't care. I've never known anyone to go on like he does. I can't talk to him cause he gets the wrong impression and we'll argue, it's not healthy Im not 16 playing games anymore! Now I'm at the point I'm fed up of being let down so much and upset with how he treats me on a weekend I actually hate him and hate myself for staying but cant give him up he worms back in being all nice ect and I don't know what to do, I'm not really that strong tbh to understand or know what to do!

Is this normal feelings or am I just weird? What to do & how?

Probs sounds like a blag but least I got it off my chest. Thanks!

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Comments ( 21 )
  • Azaman

    I was with my ex for five years. Pretty sure we hated each other for several months but we were living together, so neither of us wanted to break it off. I dunno. I kinda believe love fades and monogamy is a joke. But there are some people/marriages that perhaps proves otherwise.

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    • JESs32

      I dunno just the way he goes about things I proper hate but he'll never change its more like we are use to each other to why non of us are gonna break it off but if we do it doesn't take long to be back together and it's like a circle that never ends, drives me nuts! We were talking about moving in together see if that makes things less tense since we both work full time but I've proper gone off the idea of that too now haha I love him but I dunno if I'm in love but I'm devastated if we parted but I can't stand being with him sometimes! What is wrong with me hahaa I feel crazy sometimes!

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      • Azaman

        Love will make you feel that way. I also think I should mention my girl left me cause I developed a drinking problem. Wasn't too bad when we first started dating but got progressively worse. I only bring that up cause you say he goes out drinking instead of spending time with you.

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  • Ass_gas

    You have to accept something - He DOESN'T love you. He can manipulate you. Start listening to actions, not words. And move on.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Yes!

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  • Tealights

    He's taking your presence in the relationship for granted.

    As in, since you can put up with his shit for this long, then he has nothing to worry about as long as he says, "I love you," or "I'm sorry, I promise we can do this or that," and so on just to calm you down for the moment.

    Just remember that words are meaningless without action. He can tell you that he loves you, but if he refuse to show it, then he most likely doesn't mean it.

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  • Soultie

    Sounds to me that you are a drama queen that loves attention. If you cared about your life you would leave that jerk and. find someone worthwhile. Sometimes the truth=hurt. I was in a relationship like that for 2 years. It someone being brutally honest with m e before I realized that I care more about myself than that person

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  • dytrog

    "In love" is a lie. love is real. Monogamy seldom if ever exists. I have been married 44 years. Lost "in love" fast. love remains. Trust don't exist.

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    • Azaman

      That's sad... 44 years but you don't trust each other? I believe trust is a defining factor of love.

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      • dytrog

        I have not trusted the whore for 41 years but we had kids. Now I don't give a fuck what she does. And have not for years. The love her part is like having a dog for years. It's part of the family.

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        • IMissMary

          Glad you spoke the truth.

          People think just because someone has been married for a long time that it must be true love and bliss. Fact is a lot of people [probably most] stay married for a lot of reasons and love is probably not one of them.

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        • RoseIsabella

          That's really depressing.

          With my first marriage it was over for me as soon as I managed to get him to confess about the bitch from his work! I also got him to drive me to his place of work where I confronted the other woman and made her cry, her tears were delicious! I left him of course!

          My second ex husband turned out to be a lazy man from a family with a history of addiction and dysfunction. After he lost his job for failing a drug test he basically spent everyday getting drunk and playing video games while I was at work so I filed for divorce within a couple of months. He was also verbally abusive and emotionally neglectful.

          I haven't dated in a good while, and now I'm in a long distance relationship with a very sweet man from Houston, Texas which is actually my home town. Well, Katy is technically my home town, and he's currently living in Humble, but you get the picture. I'm currently living in Las Vegas, Nevada, and so far he's flown out to visit me three times. He just got a new nicer apartment, and plans to fly me out soon for an extended visit of one to two weeks. I'm happy and excited, yet nervous and scared. I hope that he and I are the meant to grow in love, and spend our lives together, but at this point God only knows. It's kinda scary.

          I don't think I could ever stay with anyone I didn't love. I always thought I couldn't forgive someone for cheating, but what I've learned in the past nearly 15 years is that I can forgive, but I can never forget. Honestly, I'm not the most forgiving person so it probably took me over ten years to feel like I don't hate him and the skank anymore. I'm 46 years old so I don't know how much more energy I've got for this relationship stuff left anymore. I certainly hope the third time is the charm!

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          • The_Creep_is_here

            Rosie. I am being serious. Just relax. All this emotional warmth is the way you should always have felt. The sun is shining on your life now. Smile, feel the warmth, and give him love. Your heart will show you the way.

            *Wink*

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            • RoseIsabella

              Thanks, Creep. I'm just quite overwhelmed. I want to be prepared in case my heart gets broken.

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        • Azaman

          Haha, damn man. If she gets sick are you just gonna have her put down?

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          • dytrog

            You are a idiot. I said I loved her. I would give my life for her.

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            • Azaman

              You've been married 41 years to a "whore" you don't trust. And I'm the idiot? Right.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Yeah, I hope that stupid bitch at least earns her keep by barking at strangers! I would probably have a dog like that put down. Hell, I might even shoot a dog like that myself to save veterinary costs!

            A man cheating on me would be the equivalent of my dog licking a burglar's face, and biting me in the ass! Bad dog!

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