I hate men and i hate love

I think you should stop thinking about it so much! Sometimes when we least expect it, we find someone. When we are not looking or thinking about relationships, I mean. Concentrate on you....do things you like....think about making friends with people...just to be friends. And maybe, just maybe, love will come along and tap you on the shoulder when you aren't expecting it!

I don't blame you good men are incredibly hard to find..most of them view marriage as the end of their lives...like they couldnt even fathom being with one girl for years and years....not trying to go all "momma bear" on you...but most of them just want ONE THING. most of them are jerks.....it will be hard but you will find someone. I'm 19 and I know at this moment im with the man im going to marry. he is perfect and i trust him 100 percent. keep looking girl..youll find him! I know its hard not to lose hope though..

Both men and women can be be very unsensitive and impatient in the "game." Hearts not only get broken, they get trampled on sometimes. Abandoning romantic love would thus be a valid decision. But sticking with it and maybe doing a little analyzing and then tweaking could make you happier than if you gave up.

As a 32 YO (straight) guy, IMOO, you sound a little volatile emotionally for a 27 YO (maybe analyze?) I would take someone who is, say, stoic or analytical in general over someone who is really sweet one minute, but then cranky the next. Maybe identify a couple of your honest needs, and then seek out someone who understands that you are foremost diligently working on them yourself, but then would also appreciate some understanding. This said, never ask a guy, or imply that you need him to fix you. Especially these days, any man worth having wouldn't stay.

Although I don't know you, chances are you stand a good shot at love. Hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

Maybe its who you choose to date. As the saying goes, hot guys are jerks but ugly guys are sweet. Hot and sweet guys are gay.

I wish I was next to you so you can have a shoulder to cry on. That is if you are crying. I'm really sorry that life has turned out this way for you. I hope you find somone that's right for you.

I think that if a dog gets kicked every day, the dog will learn to shy away from the foot. Being hurt over and over seems to have turned you away from the chance of happiness. Slow down and stop looking. Start looking for happiness within your self. Little by little, you may start to let others in without closing the door on them.

so have i....

Hey, I hate love too.

I am exactly right there 27 lost faith in myself. I believe such a thing called 'love' exists and I do see happy couples, getting married, having babies or at least moving in together around our age. And just like you I get more and more depressed and panic! Like everyone's going to the Noah's Arc couple by couple end of the world is coming and I'll stay here all by my own cause I don't have someone. Everytime I fell in love, I got whether dumped, cheated on or just left for another girl. Not a great life. I think for some love is not meant to be, rather than being hurt again like that I decided love is a drug that I have to quit before it kills me. I am still trying. If you believe the above BS good luck to you!

I know what you mean. I have been dumped and I have busted my butt to save what those who really shoulnd't have it keep, such as a house for my slutty exgirlfriend.

However, I didn't give up and I dated far less than what I could have and she treats me far better than I expect. All she wants is to see me smile and I feel rather happy.

Don't give up, give someone who you would have never dated because you are better than them a chance and you may be happy, I am. I am an equal now in my relationship and she is very happy I picked her up when nobody else would even talk to her. I am truly happy and never gave up.

Oh sweetling!

Please don't DON'T give up just yet. Life can be rough, and breaking up/the "just after" can be brutal.

(Believe me, I know)

But there is so much out there, believe me when I say that there Are plenty of nice guys (or girls, if you prefer) out there and who will love and respect you for You.

Take your time, get yourself primped and well dressed - then go out and take the town by storm!

You ARE worth it!

The Divine Ms. O.

Hi reading your story reminds me of myself, I am the same way at times i am happy and in the blink of a second my mood can be altered, and my boyfriend hates it and i think if i don't change it he will leave me because of it. Like you i don't know what to do to be a better person but i am reading this book "Battle Field of the Mind" by Joyce Meyer. It is so wonderful i haven't read it all yet but i will and hopefully it will help.. You have to get it!!

You are pretty discouraged. Take a break. Get some counseling around how you could be contributing to the demise of these relationships. You'll be a better person for it, & may do better next time & in the long run.

I'm a 21 year old guy who hates girls and hates love..... I havn't been dumped but I can't find any one who I want to be in a relationship with yet....

any way I would keep looking it's better to be hopeful than to give up hope, just remenber that if you keep looking you may one day have a chance at ture love but if you give up now you will never find it.