I hate love, girls, and myself

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Most of my depression, actions, and low self esteem comed from rejection and love towards women. When i was  at a young age, i found out a girl had a crush on me. Before i could fully react she moved and ever since then i wanted a girlfriend, thinking it would be the answer for me. Rejection after rejection gave me the low self esteem i have today, and it took a long distance relationship to spawn hatred towards girls and later on, everyone else. Maybe it was something i missed during my childhood that wanted all this, but now as ive grown ive given up. Love is not the answer, and women isnt either, and im depraved to believe i am the answer.

So what it comes down to, i guess is: IIN?

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  • emilydoll
    11 years ago

    That's probably not the "lesson" you're getting. You need to stay confident, work on YOURSELF, your self esteem, it will be liberating once you've conquered this fear. Bottom line is, people who try things will at times face rejection, the key in life is to not take things personally and don't beat yourself up if you do, just don't be bitter. This hatred that you have is a product of fear, you need to get over it. Occupy yourself with something you love and get lost in it, you need to love yourself first before you get into a relationship or even try. Focus on your relationship with YOURSELF. You need to be your best friend and support. That's what you're there for. That is my advice. Eventually you will have chemistry with someone who is good specifically for you and your needs. But you need to work on your confidence, God won't just throw someone into your life at the wrong time.

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    • Downcast7
      11 years ago

      I can only imagine what it would feel like to be “liberated" but you've typed alot of interesting points. I'll keep it in mind.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I say, find happiness in being single. So many people are looking for "the special someone" but is it really that special. Stop looking for someone else to make you happy. There's so much more the world than "love". Believe me. Stop listening to the sappy songs and romantic films, they're superficial! Life goes on so much far beyond relationships and "love" but you have to look for the joyous things in life and find the happiness within yourself. You don't need someone else to make you happy :)

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    • Downcast7
      11 years ago

      Thats all i have to now, love myself. And from all thats happen, you must know how hard it is, rejection after rejection at s sensitive age,to even want to care.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Let me guess, you learned that the "I want a nice guy" speech was lies?

    To be honest, good call. You should work towards progression. Why should you look for a girl? If it happens, you'll meet one. If you have to look and put effort in to get a girl, it isn't worth it, what makes her so better that you have to work hard to get a girl?

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    • udolipixie
      11 years ago

      Most likely he learned that the "I want a nice guy" speech doesn't mean all he has to do is be nice or that being nice means she'll be attracted to him.

      Always amusing how often guys take "I want a nice guy" to mean be nice and I'll date or have sex with you rather than I want a partner who is nice keeping in mind she likely has physical/attraction standards for a partner.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Really, for all women? It's just… I'm marrying a nice dude.

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    • Downcast7
      11 years ago

      Brilliant. Because this is what i came up to.

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    • Anime7
      11 years ago

      I find it kind of sad that what you're saying is actually true.

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  • udolipixie
    11 years ago

    It's normal as often people don't deal with rejection well and guys seem to react to not getting what they want with hate and/or violence.

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
    11 years ago

    You ARE the answer. you attract the type of person that you are, and you sound like you havent truly found yourself yet. once you figure who you are, truly, and re-gain your confidence you'll be a magnet for women all over. love yourself cause when you do that others will automatically love you as well. its a phase you gotta get over, its normal for now. dont let it take over your life.

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    If you are already use to rejection then you won't feel as bad.
    When people have it all and then suddenly lose it, its a greater fall.
    Try asking a 100 girls out in a row (say like over a weekend or two at nightclubs, parties, social events etc)
    I promise you that one will say Yes.
    How you feel today, will not be how you will feel in the future.
    The only way is up.

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    • Justsomejerk
      11 years ago

      That is fucking terrible advice. Girls don't want needy guys. OP you need to be able to enjoy yourself, until girls see you enjoying your company, they won't want to hang out with you.

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      • Downcast7
        11 years ago

        This is true. This makes sense. All i know is that im too low to enjoy company because of all the rejection, but this is true.

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        • Justsomejerk
          11 years ago

          If a girl guesses your asking her out because your lonely, not because she is special, she will say no, guaranteed. Girls talk, if you asked out 100 girls in a row they will know they are not special too you, they're clever like that.

          Internet dating is a completely different ball game, you are both there for the same reason but you still have to be a little bit aloof. Wait until you actually have time to get to know her before deciding that you like her.

          There are girls out there in much the same boat as you. But instead of no interest, they get guys leading them on just to put their cocks in them.

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      • Dad
        11 years ago

        I understand what you mean.
        But sourcing company or a relationship is quite normal. There are many Internet dating sites online that have been said to have much success as well.

        Quite obviously being happy within yourself is of utmost importance. But no girl is going to just come knocking at your door. You need to get out and meet others, if that takes a 100 tries then ultimately it will all be worth it.

        There is someone (actually lots) for everyone. Don't give up.

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  • mikafor
    11 years ago

    Hey, it just seems like you've had bad experiences with girls. It will all turn around when you find a good girl who isn't self centered and will participate in making the relationship work.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Rape?

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  • emilydoll
    11 years ago

    Or try eharmony.

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