I hate how nervous i get around others!!

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for one its so hard for me just to look others in the eye. I talk to some one and i try to look them in the eyes but it so hard.. its like i get nervous when talking to others and i try my best to focus on a different spot on a persons face, most of the time i just look at their nose. I also tend to get nervous just walking out my front door and someone will just drive by and i'll hurry up and go back into the house so they wont see me. i really just want to know if i can fix this. when i was in middle school i had friends who lived on the same street as me and they would always ask me on the bus if i wanted to come hang with them at their houses and go out and do things most normal kids our age did. But for some reason i would always make up an excuse for me not to hang with them.. i hated the fact i acted this way but i had and still have no clue why im like this. Friends from school would come to my house and ask for me and i would always have some one go and tell them i wasent home. its not as bad nowdays as it was before but i still dont like standing out in my front yard just knowing a friend of mine or just people living on the same street might drive by and see me or something crazy like that.Im just so tired of sitting in my house.. I can sit and play xbox 360 all day just so i wont have to be around anyone who doesn't live with me.i really hate how nervous and scared i get around most people and i wish i could just make it stop. I have no clue if this could even possibly be normal and if anyone out there knows anything about this please comment..PLEASE

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    I'm the exact same way. I troll around with my headphones on all the time, or sunglasses, so I don't have to deal with people and them asking me for free shit. I always have trouble making eye contact. Even with the people I love and know and trust. I don't know. I bet it's because we are descended from great apes, and it's an aggression signal to smile and make eye contact.

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  • cgirl123456
    14 years ago

    Same thing here :( it's so frustrating and difficult.

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  • screamtillyoudie
    14 years ago

    I've had the exact same problem for most of my life, i know exactly how you feel =

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  • WAFFLESQUID
    14 years ago

    Anyone who is suffering from this, I'm positive this is SAD (Social anxiety disorder). It's when you completely avoid social situations and dislike talking to and/or being seen by someone other than family. I have read a book about it, and there are probably a few others as well. Try reading them, they helped me a lot. But if it's that severe where it doesn't, go to a professional or any counselor. I share the eye contact thing, but other than that I have loosened up from it. Hope this information helps!

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  • needadvice
    14 years ago

    UGH I feel EXACTLY the same way. I can't look people in the eye, I get all nervous when I talk to people and I can't think of things to say, and I feel they can really sense my nervousness! I also avoid people. For instance When I am bringing my garbage out, ill open the door and if someones outside, I run back in. I really want to fix this.. it ruins my life.

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  • HoMiiE
    14 years ago

    the eye contact thing is rough... i tend to move around alot when talking to others. i try to look them in the eye, but when i do i tend to usually look in another direction very shortly

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    What Lucid_dream said. I am like that too and it's not a great way to be. What you said about making eye contact is absolutely correct for me too - it's so annoying and makes me nervous :(

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  • lucid_dream
    14 years ago

    :] sounds to me like you have an anxiety disorder. i felt the same way for a long time, and it just kept getting worse. i thought it was strange, but i was just the way i was. i never know WHAT it was though. this is definitely normal, but you should prolly talk to someone about it because it can get constricting, if you need to get a job, or when you need to live alone, it'll affect you and just make it worse. good luck!

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    • teenageschizoid43
      14 years ago

      what lucid dream said about the anxiety disorder is right, but what you're saying about getting nervous and avoiding social situations fits the description of something called avoidant personality disorder, which is, in fact, and anxiety disorder. You should definitely talk to a professional about this, there are medications for anxiety and avoidant disorder, as well as other kinds of therapy that don't involve drugs.

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    • princesspancakepants
      14 years ago

      I have experienced this. Especially the eye contact thing. It's like sometimes you can look in their eyes and see that they're thinking something different than the conversation at hand... and then it gets all out of whack and you don't want to look in their eyes anymore. I start to fidget when this happens.

      BUT, it doesn't happen too often for me. I am usually good in social environments but a glass of wine always helps as I can sometimes be a tad awkward around strangers... but then sometimes there is no problem! It's weird, for me it's like an unknown trigger or panic hits.

      As for the reclusive behaviour. I am right there with you. I am doing the same thing right now and I hate it.

      I am thinking I have generalised anxiety disorder. I think you might have social phobia (anxiety).

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      • princesspancakepants
        14 years ago

        sorry above comment was meant for OP.

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