I hate how i feel

Watch some YouTube videos on how to style hair and apply makeup. DO NOT cut your own hair though. As RoseIsabella suggested, talk to a hair stylist.

Watch tutorials online on how to style your own hair. Invest in a hair dryer if you don't already own one, and some decent hair shampoo and conditioner. If you don't have a straighter and/or curling iron, invest in one oer both of those too, depending on if you prefer your hair curly or straight.

These seem like they will be difficult to learn how to use, but trust me, you catch on fast. Beware that using heat on your hair every day can damage its condition so try not to do this every day, but when you're going out its helpful to have them handy.

Next step, decide what colour you want your hair. If you have pale skin, a pale blonde or firey red tone will suit you very much. If you have darker skin, stay away from blondes and reds and go for a deep chocolate brown or jet black. If you have olive toned skin you luck out because just about every hair colour will suit you.

As far as make up goes, if you have light hair and a fair complection, try stay away from heavy make up like red lipstick, black eye liner or black eye shadow. Go for nude tones. If you have darker hair, dark make up looks good.

I wouldn't trust a stylist just because they're "professional" if I were you. Some of them are just scissor happy nut jobs who will make you look a lot worse than you think you look now.

When I was 13, I had long, thick, wavy hair down to the middle of my back. It was healthy as I never needed to use any heat to style it. I went to a stylist before a modelling show I had and they chopped all my beautiful hair off. I had a shoulder length, thin layered style that couldn't even be decently tied up for school. The only way my hair looked decent was when I styled it with a straightener and that ruined my hair's condition.

I'm 19 and I am still trying to get my hair back to the way it was. I retouch the roots black every couple of months and use heat as little as possible, so beware of some stylists. Don't just trust them just because. I learned how to cut my own bangs and I'm pretty good at it now. Everyone asks me who my hair stylist is.

Anyway, I think you should just go with whatever you feel comfortable with. Whatever you feel will improve your looks, go with that. I wasn't very confident in my early teens either. Infact, since the 5th grade I had acne, a self esteem issue about my weight (I'm not even over weight) and I just didn't take an interest in make up, clothes, styling hair or anything else a girl should be interested in.

Today, I'm still not a girly girl but I'm girly enough to make myself look decent and feel confident. I learned how to apply make up, style my hair, and dress in a way that makes me feel confident. You need to find clothes that fit your body type, and make up that compliments your hair and skin colour.

I'm sure a real "stylist" as Rose suggests, could give you a most flattering cut. As with anything else, when you need help outside your own field, go to a professional and pay the money. Do not go to a friend or relative for a cheaper cut and end up unhappy.

I'm guessing they have smart phone apps that could let you see what you would look like with different hair styles or hair colors...maybe that would help, idk. :|

Consult with an expert stylist who can help you find styles that work with your hairline.