I hate feeling like a slave to my own bodily urges

I have huge authority/control issues, and that, as we all know, is within the spectrum of normality, but is it normal to have issues with the control my own body has over me?

I find that most people completely give in to and bow down to their own natural urges. The most disturbing part is that some men in particular almost seem proud of the fact they can't resist sexual temptation. To me, that's weakness! When someone's highest priorities include stuff the Id wants, that's disgusting to me. It's inhuman. Someone who only lives for sex, or to eat, or to sleep, or to win. That's so basal, and SO animal.

I'm revolted by bodily pleasure seekers. How can you live with yourselves with such an empty life? What'll you do when you get old? I hate giving in to cravings or arousal. I feel like a failure when I do, especially when I have things to do that actually matter. I want to make the world a better place, not just exist to fulfill my own needs, and I wish everyone felt the same amount of drive to create and to help others as they do to bang anything that walks. There is SO much more this world has to offer than just stuff that feels good or validates the self. Society is only getting shallower, and it's terrifying!

If you see yourself reflected in this post, please, try to change and look for MORE! Not only do we all deserve more, but we owe the world our full potential. Use pleasure as a reward for yourself when you actually deserve it. Don't let your body and amygdala own/rule you. Think!

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  • VinnyB

    I would have to guess, based on the fact that adults who never are have are extremely rare (more common with young adults but extremely uncommon throughout ones adult life), that the vast majority of major accomplishments throughout human history were made by people who were sexually active. So I don't see why enjoying sex should stop someone from doing things that matter.

    I also don't get the bit about "what are you going to do when you get older?" In my experience, older people tend to have more sex, and more enjoyable sex, than teens and young adults, who tend to be more socially awkward and fearful or nervous about sex due to inexperience.

    A person can enjoy a healthy sex life without it taking over their life.

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    • I don't want people to stop having sex, I just want people to make it less of a priority for them. I wish people would see bodily pleasures as rewards for accomplishment and not as something they're owed for being fit and healthy human beings.

      I'm happy to clear up what I said about getting older. What I meant was that a lot of people get older and go on and on about how they miss their youth and being young and frisky and getting into trouble and doing whatever the heck they wanted without fearing consequence. Some young people don't want to turn into this type of person, so they say they wanna die young, or die as soon as they can't live a completely libertine/hedonistic lifestyle. They only wanna feel good and have fun. Having fun is great, but it shouldn't be ones primary goal. These people are ignoring the rest of the world and focussing only upon their little corner of it.

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      • VinnyB

        That is not really what you said in your post. You post did not suggest at all that you believed people should have sex, but find the balance to also live life beyond that. You said that any time you give in to sexual desire you feel like a failure. You also said you wished everyone felt the same as you. You said especially when you had something more important to do, and in that situation I can understand. Maybe you mean "only" but especially sounds like you always feel that way you just feel it even more in those situations.

        But if you really think people need to find the balance than you have little to worry about because the vast majority of adults do have sex, and balance it with their lives. This is why society manages to function and is not just one massive orgy. This situation isn't nearly as serious or common as the tone of your post makes it sound.

        I think you misunderstand what older people are talking about. They say stull like "if only I was young again" or "youth is wasted on the young" or whatever. But the usual don't mean that they want to be the person they were when they were 20 again. They usually mean they would like to have the youth and energy that they had when they were 20 but the knowledge and experience they have now to go along with it. That way they wouldn't have missed out on experiences and opportunities they could have had but didn't because they didn't know how to go about it. This can refer to a million different situations, some sexually related and others not.

        The ironic thing here is, and you may not see this even after I say it, that you think you thinking will allow you to avoid this regret, when it is exactly the type of thinking that leads to it. By passing up on sexually related opportunities, or other fun or interesting opportunities, because you think it is a waste of time or weakness, you could well find yourself in 20 years thinking "I wish I could go back and have that fun experience I passed on because I was just takinf things way too seriously "

        Maybe that will happen and maybe it won't, no one knows the future, but it is another angle you may want to look at thing from from time to time.

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  • Short4Words

    You can do both.

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    • I never said one couldn't. I'm not prescribing avoidance here, most of you missed that point.

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      • Short4Words

        What was your point?

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  • thegypsysailor

    Wow, who brainwashed you?
    There's nothing wrong with most of what YOU find so abhorrent, to most people. Sex is one of the most wonderful things that two people can experience together.
    There's nothing in the rule book of living that says one can't change the world and have fun doing it? Must one be a solitary celibate to do good?
    I've had a wonderful life, living by the rules that suit me and no up tight prude is going to get me to change. At least I won't be on MY death bed regretting all the things I DIDN'T do.
    Lighten up, and DON'T TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY, IT'S NOT LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO GET OUT OF IT ALIVE.

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    • No one brainwashed me. I think my own thoughts, thanks. I don't find sex itself abhorrent. I find people who live only for sex or other primal urges abhorrent. It's a big distinction. And I disagree with you about it being so wonderful. People only call it wonderful because their senses are overwhelmed during it. They want to justify their 'vices' so they don't feel guilt. Sex might be wonderful on a personal level, but it's not progressive or constructive on a societal level. I won't regret what I didn't do. I do things I think are important.

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  • Cucco

    People are animals, though. It's only natural that we have such urges. Hell, if it weren't for those urges, you wouldn't be here. :p Reach for the skies, but don't deny your base instincts and pretend you're completely above nature.

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  • neonclam

    Should I hold in my farts?

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    • Might as well.

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      • Riddler

        Some people are just shallow. You really cant change some people.

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  • howaminotmyself

    You need to stop assuming you know how other people feel. Most people are perfectly capable of controlling their urges.

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    • Maybe they have the power to control them, but they choose not to, and that's even worse.

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  • Arm0se

    Calm the fuck down! Horny bastard!

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    • I'm calm. I posted this hours ago. Thanks for your concern. I'm allowed a venting session, aren't I?

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  • Tybo626

    these things are animalistic and often bad but don't forget that humans are just animals too were just smart ones

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  • pixie44

    I think what Op is trying to say is that this generation is very obsessed with sex. Especially men, it's like LETS SEE HOW MANY GIRLS I CAN SLEEP WITH. We are a more advanced species and should act the part. But yet we are dumbing ourselves down to act like "animals."

    We care about things that we shouldn't. It's a lot harder to commit to a relationship and settle down now.

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  • Anonnet

    I hate going to the bathroom, but that's about as far as it goes.

    I agree to an extent but, unlike you, I don't think less of people that live for their urges. They're living their lives the way they want to live it, I don't really have a reason to care.

    I really believe that not everyone needs to contribute to societal "progress". Some people are naturally into it. For everyone else, they should just do what makes them happy. Science may not advance as fast as you would like, but trying to speed it up by getting (or forcing) everyone into being inventors and physicists wouldn't end well.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa

    Maybe you should check out Buddhism. Self-denial of pleasures is a big part of that religion.

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  • Most of you have missed my point entirely. If you want, you can read my post or comments more carefully.

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  • green_boogers

    The good thing about bodily urges is that it only takes a couple of hours per day to satisfy them. What you do with the rest of the time determines the your place in life. Be efficient, work smart, and play at the top of your game. Self-actualization yields big returns.

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    • Exactly. That's why I can't understand people who waste the time between satisfying bodily urges waiting for or seeking out the next bodily urge.

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      • green_boogers

        I'm getting the urge to talk about urges right now. What are your favorite urges?

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    What about the urge to eat large quantities of food?

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    • Eat large quantities of food when you've done something that makes you feel you deserve to (:

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  • Freedom_

    I'll admit, I let my urge to sleep control me too often and I think I will accomplish more when I take control of that. But there are some people who indulge in their sleep and their food and their sex, but still manage to become successful. Could they be more successful by abiding to your terms? Perhaps. I believe I read that Einstein slept 12 hours a night. Perhaps had he chose a less indulgent routine, we'd have a time machine by now..

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    • Einstein went to bed deserving his sleep. That's the difference.

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