I hate crowded and noisy places. it that normal?

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Firstly, please bear with my poor English as I have never really used written English before.
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I feel very unsecure in crowded and noisy places. If it is not noisy, then that unsecure feeling is not as much, but I still feel unsecure. In my Japanese class, I know no one but I feel kinda relaxed as they are all adults and very quiet in class. But when I go to a party with my friends, it is like a torture for me. Each of them is like a speaker operating at max volume. The noises make me go crazy. It is even worse if they all talk about something I do not know or do not care about as I have no one that I can actually talk to. I am a more advanced student in Physics than my friends (we all study Physics) so my school give me access to the whole Physics Lab. Therefore, I can er... survive, at least, for this year. But I know I can not count on luck elements like that forever. Can I be cured of my fear? Some people started saying that I was unsociable but I "can" do social activities, even with good results if the members are not a bunch of noisy kids (I used to take part in social activities, but now I don't anymore since I want to devote my time to studying Physics and I do not see social activities as interesting as before, and interacting with my friends feels hard as I hardly have any same hobbies as them)

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  • FireFlower
    9 years ago

    Being around too many people at once triggers anxiety and panic for some.

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    I don't really like noisy places either. With practice you can learn to tolerate them, but you are never going to flip yourself from introvert to extrovert. It's just part of your physiology.

    I don't think it's very good that you've stopped socializing though. You need that. I think you should just try to find the right activity. I like to go hiking sometimes with meetup groups. It's not going to get loud because you're outside on a trail. But you still have the opportunity to carry on a conversation with the other hikers.

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  • seekelp
    9 years ago

    What bothers you about crowds the most? If those places aren't where you'd like to hang out, don't. If you don't share the same hobbies as your friends, make friends with people who do share your hobbies. People constantly change.

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    I can't stand places that are overly busy either. If i go to a bar or nightclub and it's too busy, I just find another one.

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