I hate complete strangers coming over to look at and touch my baby

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Ok,my wife and i are sick and tired of people assuming it is ok to just come over and stare at our baby daughter or even touch her.I wouldnt dream of doing this and I am afraid it seems to always be women who do it,mostly elderly.Yes I think she is adorable too but it feels rude and intrusive.I even had a woman pull on my jumper to get my attention so she could have a look!I dont always mind,its just when i look away for 5 seconds and then turn back only to find someone leaning over her or tickling her foot.There are boundaries you know!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Hahahahaha wow I never thought of it that way, Im always the obnoxious person gawking at the beautiful baby. Well i guess I'll ask next time, thanks for the input.

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  • yayasaga
    13 years ago

    That happens to often and it is very intrusive. I've had complete strangers tell me "Here! I'll hold the baby!" ummm no!!! I hate it when people do that! You don't know what they've been touching, if they are sick, or just a plain creepo. The list goes on and on. I agree with you

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    What bugs me is people giving my child candy without my consent. I mean, my family has a history of diabetes and some children are hyper sensitive and go nuts with any amount of sugar. And they're offended when I ask them to please ask me first and don't let her see it!!??

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  • artFreak
    13 years ago

    Erm... overprotective i think??
    There is nothing wrong with people who like babies..there is wrong with people like me who feel uncomfortable being near babies cz they think babies are secretly evil and will rule the world (true story)!!
    I thought parents kinda like it when people like their baby..
    Don't worry! The baby will still love YOU! not strangers!

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  • Bubbles-for-life
    11 years ago

    Baby boobie

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  • Steinbergfelter
    13 years ago

    I have a daughter of my own, and i hate letting people touch her. So many people are uncleansed and filled with disease. I even have issues if my friends touch her unless they wash there hands. People it is not okay to just touch another persons child.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    oh wow i totally understand. when my husband got me preggers, i had people touching my stomach and it made me so uncomfortable and it stressed me out so much. unfortunately we lost it but i dont know how much more i could have taken of people touching me!! when we try again i am going to carry around a sign with me saying "dont touch" and eventually they will get the point. dont ever feel you are being insensitive telling these old biddies to stop touching your child. it is your baby, not theirs and they need to realise that. who knows what diseases these people have and they are touching your baby!! maybe carry around a bottle of hand cleaner and if they want to touch your baby, make them clean their hands first. who knows, you might have a giggle when they get offended lol

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    • Maggie143
      12 years ago

      I feel the same way, in what other social situation is it okay for some weirdo to come and touch your stomach. I have a shirt that says" Yes I am pregnant, NO you may not touch my belly!" This shirt came in to play when an old guy with a gross long beard and most of his teeth gone came and molested my stomach. Hormones must have been the cause but I went the "f" off on him. I know he will never touch a preggers woman again.
      On another note:
      Five years ago I broke my back, I was in a body cast from waist to hips. My husband and I were in lowes and i was in those motor scooter carts and this woman came up and knocked on my chest and said "what the hell is that thing" I smacked her hand away. I was way pissed.

      Plain and simple keep your nasty grubby hands off me and mine!!!! PERIOD!!!!

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    • Steinbergfelter
      13 years ago

      That last part of your comment made me laugh aussiewolf

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  • candy8
    13 years ago

    Who knows where their fucking hands have been?!?!?!

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  • angelok11
    13 years ago

    I think that like saying your baby is cute is fine, but I don't get near other people's babies.

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  • Fiona
    13 years ago

    It wasn't until a waitress actually put her mouth on my infant son's hand that I got up the nerve to tell everyone not to touch. The fear and craziness that brought out in me carried over for years - you are dead on with the boundaries thing - be a good mom and make 'em back off before it goes too far. Those who were moms should get it, those who may someday will - as for the rest (all really) the baby comes first!

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  • crazygood
    13 years ago

    Definitley normal, they should admire from afar and their hands may not even be clean which is an issue.

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  • atorres444
    13 years ago

    ppl are obnoxious... Like you really want your baby to get stangers germs all over them...Don't they have a little freakin' common sence come on! So many weirdos out there.

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  • Karategurl
    13 years ago

    Just don't stop for them to touch the baby, and I agree with Ollieo, 'look but don't touch' sounds like a polite thing to say if somebody touches your baby.
    I'm not a parent, and even I think that could be extremely annoying. Babies are adorable, but I don't think it's appropriate for people to go up and touch them as if they're a puppy dog or something.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    my gf loves babies :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Shit really ur annoyed?!?!! My mom and I do that all the time and I didn't think were really that annoying??? And besides they are really cute!!

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  • Oddish
    13 years ago

    i always wnt to sniff them. inhale there life force.

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    oooooh, some babies are irresistible! I want to hold the cute ones :)

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  • ieatrocksdirt
    13 years ago

    this is so annoying. and it seems impossible to politely say do not touch the baby. i think that this is obvious, i wouldnt want a stranger coming up to me and touching me. also if i am in a hurry and people are eyeing me expecting me to stop and let them look at my daughter im just like seriously? i have to go! i am a woman on a mission and i dont have time to just stand there for 5 minutes. this makes me sound kindof rude, but it happens so often that sometimes i just keep walking.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      1) "You can look, but don't touch please." with a :) - seems quite polite.

      2) Who said you are obliged to stop and let people look at your baby. Are people saying that? Are you a mind reader who knows they are thinking that? I doubt it.

      Babies in public bring a certain amount of attention you may be unused to. It is not inappropriate attention, look at others' posts. You just have to learn to see it a bit more graciously and with far less vexation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yeah there are boundaries, but yours may be a little too tightly hemmed in.

    Those elderly women were likely once mothers & in any event are cooing their appreciation. I do think you are stretching this out of proportion & could lighten up a bit.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Keep a sign saying: You touch the baby, your gonna get hurt. Try at your own risk. I'd hate it too if strangers would touch my child someday. Keep your filthy hands to yourself.

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  • squeegela
    13 years ago

    I agree with you completely! Especially the touching part! It's hard enough being a new parent and trying to keep the baby healthy without strangers touching him/her. I'll admit to smiling and cooing, but touching is just wrong. I've never come up with a polite way to tell people not to tho sincemost times they r just being nice. Is a hard thing to tell off a sweet old lady!! Good luck, and you are doin a great job, I'm sure!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    ugh i HATE that.... totally normal. my mom just had a baby and random people come up and are all like "what a cute baby" and i think "get ur own freaking baby, freak"

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