I hate being called smart

So I get pretty good grades in school and I help a lot of my friends understand their homework and classwork. When we're hanging out on the weekends or after class and someone mentions my grade on a quiz or how I helped them I always hear "oh, you're so smart." They all seem to think it's a compliment, but I just feel like crying whenever people call me smart. I feel like I'm two dimensional and not really a friend, only someone considered 'smart'. I want to be liked for other qualities. Thoughts?

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  • lulzdude

    It sucks to be called smart, people expect much more from you and when you screw up its much worse. Im good at what little I do know, but im not a god and cant be awesome at everything. It blows to be considered smart when you know you arent even the best at what you do, computers for me.

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  • landbeyondnoother

    I have the same thing, i'm in high school with like high expectations and whenever i get a good score people are like "your so smart" "clever" "you boffin" stuff like that and i hate it too. Coz a my school its not a reputation to be smart. I try to just not draw attention to myself so no one notices.

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  • 53739

    Thayer just jealous.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    If you don't want to be loved for your qualities what do you expect to be loved for? Its not bad to be intelligent and some people wish they were more intelligent so you should be grateful. People noticing your intelligence does not mean all your other qualities are instantly gone.

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  • I feel like this because when I am surrounded by, excuse my negativity, but, morons. I'd say it's normal to an extent

    In child development I sit next to two freshman girls that don't know what the uterus does! It's when people like that call me smart that I get irritated by it.

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  • sheepsheep

    it's good to be smart. you can win games against people and make $$$$$. so no need to whine.

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  • drummerben04

    Absoutely, calling another person smart implies that you are ignorant which is a lack of self respect. Whenever I am in the presence of someone who refers to me as smart I realize I am witnessing a lazy person, too lazy to teach themselves anything so they latch onto other people in trying to bring them down; how are you so smart?? Ugh, it drives me bats.

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  • ThatCreepyWhiteGuy

    I don't get called smart except by people even stupider than me, and those are rare.

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  • Big biceps are importanter. Just kidding :P being smart is really awesome, but for me, getting called smart gets really old after a while. I get what you mean, but don't feel so down!

    If an athletic person was constantly training, helping, and otherwise doing athletic things, that person would probably get complimented on being so athletic all the time.

    Its just what you are really good at and display often, and is a prominent, admirable trait:)

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  • Gamzeee

    b3in smarte iz kewl

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  • ktylizbth

    It's annoying because it's making a value judgement. There are so many different types of intelligence to assume someone can just quantify your intelligence based on a stupid test, grade, or whatever else is so unbelievably near-sighted. You just think, "How do you know?" Being called "smart" in society just means, "You are similar to me and I approve of you" or "You meet my expectations" And even if I was "smart", why would I need your judgement or approval of me? Also, many times it's assuming I am gifted or have something that you don't, which is not true at all.

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  • littlemissgiggles

    I get this all the time! It truly sux :( personally, I don't feel very smart so when people call me that, instead of seeing it as a compliment I sort of feel like they are joking, even if they are being sincere. Also, at my school, being smart isn't exactly "cool" so it's like they are making fun of me by saying that.
    I know how you feel :)

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  • timebobbu

    just go with it, it makes them feel better about themself. they think if they were on the same level as you they would be coined lazy.

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  • Whats wrong with being smart? I am often argued with but I am happy with who I am and my choices. I know that if I was rather dumb, I wouldn't be able to do the stuff I can do so I would perfer to be smarter even if I am bashed for it.

    Be happy of who you are and realise that you will hopefully have a better life than the retards who bash you because you are smarter than them.

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  • mtnw

    golden in right. no way can being smart be a bad thing. life is easier, all the way around, when you are smart. things that you can figure out in an instant, some poor dummy struggles with.

    even if it is the only compliment you recieve, i am sure your friends do like you for who you are. after all, you do things together that don't involve you helping them with schoolwork, right?

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  • puretravel

    Don't think like that calling you smart is because that much you have helped them in their work and that much have attracted them by your work so feel it happy. But this not become you a head weight person so be careful off that
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  • Golden

    How old are you? I ask because when I was in middle school on up people use to call me "School Girl" and "Cute", not mean but in a way where they were concluding I was different from them. I wanted to be "Popular" and "beautiful". Though everyone in school always liked me, I did feel different. As I got older and now that I am in college and in the professional workforce, being called smart is a cool thing and I love it. When people talk about my looks now, they still say cute but they also say "sweet" and "innocent" and a lot of women say they wish they looked as adorable as I do because it make me look young. Anyway, my point is someday you will find value in being called "smart". At this time it may feel awkward to stand out for something like being smart but as you grow older you will realize it is good to stand out for something as positive as intelligence. There are a lot of people who feel they aren't even acknowledged let alone called anything positive. If you want to be known for your other values try expressing them. Until than hang in there, you might love being smart someday!

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