I had drunk sex and she doesn’t remember it

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I got drunk at my frat’s party and slept with a girl who was also drunk. With all the rape and sexual assault shit going around I dont her thinking I took advantage of her cause we were both drunk but she was hammered. It was completely consensual and she was awake and into it the whole time (she rode me) until We both passed out. I don’t remember who passed out first but we didn’t pass out during sex, only after when we got our clothes (most of them) back on.

I tried to talk to her today, we had only met at the party and had only talked the one time, and she didn’t know who I was. When I told her we met at a party she said she didn’t remember me.

Now I don’t know what the fuck to do cause it’s sketchy saying “Yeah we fucked that one time you were drunk” but I also don’t want her remembering it wrong and getting all upset or fucked over by it cause that shit could be traumatic and she’s nice. I also don’t want to be labeled a rapist. Wtf do I do

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    Hehe, that's always an ego boost huh ? When they don't remember you slipping it to her.

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  • goodatgiving
    6 years ago

    If she gets pregnant be glad she doesn't remember you....LOL

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  • Chuda
    6 years ago

    Never do this. It's a crime. Only one thing u can do in future that next time donnt have sex. Just take her test. Lick her as much u can and jerk off.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    I think you have to not tell her, isn't that crazy??

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Drunk sex is never the best sex. The current climate makes it positively hazardous, particularly for men.

    What you did is at least a little questionable, since you say she was "hammered", while you were only drunk. That suggests you knew at the time that she wasn't really all there, even if her eyes were open and she was an active and eager participant.

    The whole area of whether it's possible for someone to give consent when intoxicated is a minefield. Laws and university rules vary, but what it comes down to is that sex under the influence of alcohol is not automatically non-consensual, but alcohol makes it harder to determine if you have consent.

    I suggest you keep your mouth shut about this, to her and everyone else. In fact, I think you shouldn't mention this even if you get to know her really well and there's a repeat performance.

    Finally, drinking so much that you black out is not good. Maybe the party was a one-off for her, but it sounds like she might have issues relating to alcohol use.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      I don't think it's a crime as long as the girl is sober and coherent enough to know exactly what's going on, and that she is OK and for what you are both doing.

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  • NashamaTheWeird
    6 years ago

    You need to tell her. What if she got pregnant from the encounter?

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