I got jealous over my mom hugging someone. iin?

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I was at the store with my mom and she bumped into a coworker of hers. They hugged. I got real mad and jealous over it.

See, my mom never hugged me as a kid. She has said she's 'just not affectionate'. OK, so what? If you can hug your friends, then couldn't you at least have hugged your kids? Fake it if you have to! Her kids should've been more important than her personal hang-ups over hugging.

I'm 30 and I was surprised at my intense feelings of anger and jealousy when I saw them hug. I thought I had come to terms with all of my childhood bullcrap a long time ago, I don't dwell on my past or anything. So why did this stir me up so bad? That bothers me because that tells me there's things I think I've overcome but haven't.

Is any of this normal??

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  • mrsxsalvatore
    11 years ago

    This post made me really sad :( I think you have to talk to her about it and tell her exactly how you feel.

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  • Cohen
    11 years ago

    That's a shame. Maybe you could talk to her about that and find out why she was like that when you were younger. It might be one hell of an awkward conversation but if it changes something between you maybe it'd be worth it.

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  • HarperLee
    11 years ago

    If you'd like and want hugs from your mom I can totally see how that would upset you and make you sad. It's possible she wasn't raised in an affectionate home either. If you're uncomfortable with bringing the subject up to your mom, how about just going up to her and randomly hugging her yourself? Since she wasn't very affectionate with you when you were a child she may think you'd be uncomfortable with it so she feels awkward about it.

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  • theytookthisone
    11 years ago

    Oedipus complex? jk

    You should talk to her about it if it really bothers you..

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  • chocolatepizzayeah
    11 years ago

    Every child needs to have hugs from their mum! I was be VERY mad if I was in this situation. Sit her down and tell her how you feel and ask her why isn't she affectionate? You deserve to know, to be honest.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes because you need a mummy hug. Mum hugs are the bestest.

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