I get too emotionally attached to books in the weirest way

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I hate that I love to read so much, because when im done with a book i get so emotionally attached I start to believe the characters can see me. I know they cant, but this really big part of me wants to believe they can so I keep up the charade. This interfers with my actual life because im always doing weird things in order to keep the characters of the book entertained while watching me. Then I have this thing where I can control exactly what they see, like my life is a book that I can change at will and they have no choice but to enjoy it. I take bits and pieces of each story and make them my life and make the characters of the books know all about my past to make them feel as attached to me as I am to them. I dont know what mya problem is, because I go so far as to cry about things from the book that ive incorporated into my past. Its very complicated and so much more to it and it kinda creeps me out, but I dont want to stop because I love how they love me even though I know none of this is real even though A VERY BIG part of me believes it to be. The worst part is that im 16. Too young to be going crazy.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Maybe if it is erotic novels. Those are really hot to read!

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  • ShadowhunterGurl
    11 years ago

    OMG!!! WOOOW!! I can't believe it, STORY OF MY LIFE!!! When I'm in a classroom I pretend one of my favorite characters is watching me and I make up stories what would happen if they were there too, or maybe if that scene would be in the book. I love reading. EVERYONE even my teachers say I read too much.
    P.S.: Usually the character is always Jace from a book called City of Bones by Cassandra Clare. Oh yeah and I'm a girl too. You are not alone! :D

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  • Sparkles16
    12 years ago

    I do that too!!

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  • Arandomguy
    13 years ago

    you aren't crazy, you're creative. you're asking if imagination is normal. it is normal and keep reading good books. they're not a downside!

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  • SeptimusBrash
    13 years ago

    I used to do things like this to the point that I tied all my obsessions together. Imaginary friends, celebrities I was into, people near me I wished I knew; I would imagine them as the people I was reading about and get so into it I would get angry whenever I had to do something that wasn't reading my book. My dad was a control freak to the point that I wasn't allowed to close my door, have any kind of music and he even forbid me to have pens or notebooks because he decided he didn't like not knowing what I was writing.
    You do a lot of things to get to 18, but trust me, life is much easier for you now than it will be in five-seven years. Enjoy your imaginings. I miss mine.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Me to! Vampires..... ;-)

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  • LaceTie
    14 years ago

    im the same, not to that etent, but getting there.
    i think its great that you believe in something. I know you cant really call this a 'belief' but hey, it kina is. If it works for you then thats awesome!
    Just as long as you can control it, and maybe pull it back. Your still living in the real world here. Be normal in front of people :P
    let others in, [not to ur novel word as much] but just go about life as anyone would, but definitly enjoy that you actual have something good. And it works for you and makes u feel better.
    others are pretty stuck in life, they dont know what they think or what they are doing in life.
    [BTW im 15]

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  • olivia82
    14 years ago

    I feel that people on tv or the internet know everything about me. Some things just can't be explained.

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    • ShadowhunterGurl
      11 years ago

      lol sometimes that happens to me too, I'm embarrassed to do stupid stuff when I'm watching a movie, thinking they can see me but not too much

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  • Garraven
    14 years ago

    I have no reason or solution to your problem only the knowlage that I am a kindred spiret(I get obsesed with books)
    And I hope that if to stop is what you realy whant then i hope it comes to pass

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  • GingerAle
    14 years ago

    I had the same feeling when I was your age... are you particularly lonely person? maybe that is the reason you live your life through your books. dont worry too much, you are kind and sensitive person and we need sensitive people in this world. Just try to do more things apart from leading. It is fun.

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    • imsodepressed
      14 years ago

      I like and appreciate your "diagnosis" :) but im not lonely at all. Im very outgoing, I go out with my freinds all the time, I guess I just dont like parents. Because I always imagine them dead or differnet people.

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    I often imagine my life is a novel too...

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    • crimson_mamba
      14 years ago

      Maybe reading books draws you into a whole other world where you are in control, and let all your fantasies, emotions, fears..etc. run wild. I think its a control issue. In the real world, outside of books, how in control are you? ARe you a passive person? If so, then reading books is an outlet for you and therefore an addiction.
      Maybe you have no people to talk to about these emotions and so books provide comfort and relief.

      dont feel bad about it though, I think its a really unique and creative that you do all this in your mind and imagination.

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      • imsodepressed
        14 years ago

        Thank you. I really like and appreciate your diagnosis :) but im not very passive at all. Im not too aggressive either.But now that you mention it, my mom is the BIGGEST control freak ever and that makes me so mad because I never feel as though im in control of ANYTHING when im around her or at home.

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