I get so depressed after a crush/fling didnt end up like i expected it

Its been happening with like the last two crushes of mine where once i feel like there is something there i start daydreaming and planning all these things that will happen with us. Because im expecting so much, i think too much preventing what could be happening with us. Instead of getting all sad because we didn't talk like i wanted, because i didnt act like i wanted, i should just forget and care whats happening in front of me right there! Everything could be great if i just focus but no i am too busy thinking of what it should be. Any one have any advice on what i should i do or how i can stop this? Because it doesn't or he doesn't turn out like i wanted i should move on because it means hes not for me? Or should i focus like i said before and forget my daydreams and such? But how? Im really tired of getting depressed at the end when it didnt turn out like i planned. I start thinking i should've could've would've. I cant stop thinking about the guy for days and what could have happened.

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  • b454

    Your just setting yourself up for an upset. Its nice to daydream about how you want things to be, but that usually never happens. I don't know how you can stop but you should try. Or at least don't let it bother you so much when it doesn't go as planned in your head. If only everything went the way we wanted it to we would all be much happier

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  • redhearts

    I have come to the conclusion that people who lead you on are just totally self absorbed and looking for an ego boost. It actually angers me that someone can be so self obsessed that they use people just to feel special for a little while.

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  • jsilver

    I feel tha same way. I hate when guys lead u on and kick u to tha curb!

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    • Thats not the problem though. The problem is how my daydreams prevent me enjoying what can really happen with me and him.

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  • bigguy2010

    Everyone experiences the same issue at one time or another in his/her life. Try reading "The Precious Present" by Spencer Johnson, MD.

    I know... The title of a book should be underlined, but how do you do that in this comment box?

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  • secrettellings

    everyone has the feeling of "depression" when relationships dont go how they want..but you shouldnt let u affect you that way. stay happy and upbeat and one day you will find someone that will turn out like you wanted.

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