I get jealous of other people's misfortunes...

...I am so glad you have written this. I'm feeling exactly the same way right now and it happens to me a lot. And I want to kill myself because I feel very immature and like a mere attention seeker. But now I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who can't quite control this.

I've been feeling this way for years whenever something bad happens to a friend. Very bad things have happened to me in life, but it's like... I want to suffer so everyone sees me as someone strong, or I might just want attention. I think we should openly talk to a therapist about this. It probably has to do with an inferiority complex...

I am so thankful I've read this. I hope you get to solve this problem, because I know how it makes you suffer... Good luck, and thanks for sharing. You are not alone.

I am happy I found this. I feel the exact same way. I feel like bad things should happen to me. I feel like my life is too good, and I want something bad to happen to me. Does anybody have a name for this disorder? And also I dont want some snobby bitch to reply to me saying I should be thankful, because you have NO IDEA what it is like to feel like this.

I have this, or a related, problem. Anyway, it sounds like the same thing. I don't really want bad things to happen to me, or to anyone, but I get jealous and angry when they do happen to other people. I am currently operating on the theory that what I really want is to be a hero, and to be so recognized, especially to be a tragic hero. As a child, these were the people my parents told me I should look up to, so now I want to be one of them. I don't know if that's sound, but it's the best I've got so far.

Oh, and harachi? if you don't know what the conversation is about, do yourself a favor and shut up.

There are several reasons you probably envy other people's misfortunes. Competition and special attention. Many times when something good happens to us people are not nearly as attentive as when something bad happens. Then people hover around you, dolling out advice, affection, money, sympathy, and generally you will feel like the world revolves around you. It can be a heady and addictive feeling. If someone else is suffering then the attention is diverted from you. Hence your envy.

Also, a competitive person will desire to be competitive in every aspect of life, not just positive or goal-driven activities like sports, awards or accolades. Competitiveness will seep into the bad aspects of life, too. "You're depressed, huh? Well, I'm MORE depressed than YOU!" Again, it's based on being the center of the universe and being more "special" than someone else. Do you ever envy when good things happen to people? It could be because good things are normally due to a person's hard work and choice, whereas bad things are uncontrollable. You desire to be unique by any means possible.

I've been struggling with this exact thing my entire life... and I know that it's not an attention thing, since whenever I do suffer in any way, I prefer to keep it to myself and never tell anyone. I have a friend who is depressed and I always get so intensely jealous of him whenever he talks about it, i know that I should be a good friend and try to help him but the feeling is just so intense. Why can't I just be a good friend? And them some times I feel like it goes the other way around, and I enjoy other people's sufferings. That doesn't happen very often with real people, but more like fictional characters. I remember when I was 7 I would pretend to hurt my stuffed animals, and I enjoyed it so so so much more than I should've. Every time I suffer in any way, I always miss it when its over. I also keep trying to purposefully hurt myself. I want to suffer and I hate it.

toatally normal somtimes i wish bad things happen to me not the "i wanna die" way though

Oh wow I feel the same way. I want every kind of suffering and conflict in my life. Mostly to make it interesting. I hate it when bad things happen to people and they complain about it. It's just another adventure, another /thing/ in your life that makes your life wonderful and unique. Unfortuneatly hardly anything bad happens to me :(

Nah, It just means you want attention, or your just bored with your life...or you want pity, or a reason to be upset.

or your just a miserable person

No that is not normal at all.
I'll do you a favour though. I'll keep wishing for you to develop an inoperable turmour on your brain. How about that? Misfortunate enough for you?

Oh! your a druggy..
Well now its normal
But you should probably stp before you loose ALL your braincells

I could care less what my friends think of me.Being a grown up you realize that its not about what your friends think or any one else..If you have the best of things be happy.I work 7 days a week i am a slave life isnt easy dont wish misfortune then it may become reality and you will see the truth of what i am saying....

Believe me when you get misfortune you will wish your stupid ass didnt have it,You sound like you are a kid first you need to grow up and thank god for all the good things us people who work and live a rough life can only dream of what a spoiled kid like you has been given believe me the grass isnt always greener on the other side....

I get that as well. I thought I was strange and I was embarrassed to admit it. But now I'm not the only one who gets this, I feel better.

I get really jealous when someone tells me about how depressed they are, or how something really terrible has happened. I instantly wish that it were me instead.

And when I get ill and then it starts to go away, I get really annoyed because I don't want to feel better again, I still want to be ill and to have something to complain about.

I am British afterall, and I've heard it said that the British aren't happy unless they are complaining about something.

But I think there is something really wrong with me. I don't think it's normal for me to feel like this at all.

I relate to this so much. Whenever something bad happens to other people, I get so fucking jealous and I wish that were me instead. It makes me feel so guilty and disgusting. It makes me feel like a horrible friend.

I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY AND I HATE IT. like i support you and thank you for sharing really helps me. do u have any tips on how to get rid of this feeling, or know what it is? please help xxxxx

I greatly understand what you're going through. About a hour ago, my friend was talking about how her parents got a divorce on a group chat, and I wanted to feel sympathy for her, but all I could do was just read what she was typing and, watch, my friends respond saying things like, "oh,I feel so bad for you", and "things happen, and I'm always here for you, don't feel bad. Cry as much as you want, it's ok." I wanted to say something like this but i couldn't. I honestly wish I didn't feel like this, but I do, it's not a good feeling.

Although I selected that it isn't normal, I can totally relate to this and it happens to me too. I n my case I think it is because I desperately want to be loved and given a hug because I am a big softy. I also feel so guilty when others suffer and people give them special attention, it's almost like I feel disturbed at their suffering and get knots in my stomach.

LOL, freaks, My brother committed "suicide by cop" and my entire family could barely contain their pleasure for getting soooo much attention! My mother especially. My husband and my step-daughter start crying and acting all traumatized when they spoke to my brother twice!!.. I was the one who saw my brother with a bullet in his head. YET!! my step-father,step-sister, step-daughter and husband are crying like they care and I've never seen these people cry about anything........This was the Twilight Zone! They were all such bad actors. They should have kept their mouths shut. well, it's over and no one ever gave a crap about my brother until he was dead...gross.

sounds like you like to be the center of attention to me. I have a feeling if something really bad happened to you or a family member you would change your tune. My twin sister was murdered a few years ago are you jealous of me because trust me you shouldn't be it sucks to feel pain that intense I wouldn't wish it on anyone

Trust me, when you're world comes crashing down around you, you're gunna wish you were trouble free and hadn't wished it upon yourself. Try and appreciate that you have a good life and stop being so ungrateful.

omg i get the same shit feeling, word its normal i guess.

I feel this way too, I become happier after hearing about others misfortune because I no longer feel sad about my own situation.

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Does that give me the right to treat you like crap then?

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Wow that is really strange. BUt I had a friend who I think had the saome problem as you. Because anytime one of our friends had a problem at home she would try to chang the subject as soon as possible but then when something happend to her it was the worst thing in the world and everybody had to gather around her and feel her pain.

I do get jealous of people but atleast pretend that your proud because when you make an accomplishment you would want your friends to be proud of you...
Right??

you need attention, everyone does. dont wish bad lick on yourself hun do something that will get you attention in a good way. although i totally understand.

No! It's not!

Have any of you actually had something terrible happen to you?
What is wrong with you! There's so much to be grateful for! So much to DO FOR yourself to BECOME a unique, fascinating being! To sit around and hope something terrible happens to you so you can get the attention you want without even working for it DISGUSTS ME! Because if anything terrible had ever happened to you, you would not dare insensitively wish you could be going through it.

I actually pity your sort. What a waste of a life.