I found someone i adore

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I met someone online a few years we turned into great great friends and we fell for each other. It was great but I fucked up a lot by keeping saying I wanted to leave, Idk why I do that I think it's to do with my past. He always forgave me though and we carried on. We had our tiffs my main concern after a couple of years was us meeting, a couple of years of us knowing each other, he'd had a hard time and didn't have a job and no money so I was always trying to help but he'd get snappy or moody. He was genuine I do believe that we video chatted and sent photos etc. Towards the end I got fed up of not getting anywhere so I thought the only way to make him realise was tell him. He used to always dig me for trying to leave or make me feel like I'd done something wrong when I hadn't, I did fuck up though. I went mad at him and we both agreed to stop it, but we had messages everyday for years and he kept coming back but I felt so numb I just didn't feel anything, I said some horrible things hoping to make him realise.

But now a few months on I've come round and I've tried to talk to him he was okay with it. But now he's dead against it hessaid he doesn't want me or like me then confessed he does, keeps mentioning me finding someone else and keeps saying he's leaving when all I want is him in my life even as a friend and he won't :'( after everything we have been through I think about the good times and it hurts a lot, I really need him in my life how do I get him to realise it's a mistake and I need him?

He keeps being nasty saying I'm obsessedetc when I know he doesn't mean it then I didn't message for a while and he says 'you didn't message for an hour that's impressive for you'

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  • shuggy-chan
    6 years ago

    Walk away, try to break it off cleanly

    That relationship is falling apart.

    Try focusing on yourself for a little bit, and then when you're in a better place.

    You could look for someone else that will be an exterior source of validation.

    Because that is how it comes off to me, you want the attention of another person as validation for yourself.

    Both of us need that to some degree, but your need for validation from him is at an unbalanced level

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  • insanebotv21
    6 years ago

    Stop messaging him so much and let him breathe, then maybe he'll return your pleas. Acting obsessive is the surest way to ward a guy off. If you really are messaging him every hour, then it's no wonder he wants nothing to do with you. He's not being nasty, he genuinely believes you are obsessed because you're acting obsessed.

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