I found out bf plays with his own ass. wish he would open up about it.

Ok so a few months ago I got the thought in my head that he was indeed into self ass play because I had found some phallic like objects in the bathroom with his jerk off lotion in them. This seemed so NOT his style that I quickly dismissed the thought, even tho I realized when I did think about it I was turned on... 2 weeks ago I was giving him head, and we were REALLy getting into it, as he was standing before me and I noticed one hand MIA, I opened my eyes to realize that it was in his ass. I was wicked excited, not just turned on, I mean at what I thought was the fact that he was opening up and letting me in on his dirty secret...to my dismay after the rocking session we had, it has not been brought up again and any attempt I make to enter that "region" is denied.... Now I find myself angry because the secret is taking away from our sex I'm starting to feel like he wants to have more sex with himself then with me and that's obviously because he's doing things that make him feel good but he wont do in front of me. Now what makes this really weird is I'm not a prude my boyfriend knows that I'm a freak in the sack and will do anything. I have been very open with him about my sexual past and in hopes that this will let him open up to me but to no avail what should I do? I really want to be a part of his fetish. I am embarrassed but it turns me on. Is this normal? I mean A bunch of the men i have been with have liked a bit of ass play now and then. They have always been open about it. Why is he so secretive? My REAL question to you is this: is it normal for a heterosexual man to take pleasure from anal penetration? If so is it wrong for me to push him into letting me be apart of his fetish?

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  • He's possibly just worried you won't like ti and will think he's gayor whatever, just be open that you like ti and get turned on by it so hopefully he'll relax and you can incorporate it to your sex lives. Hell who knows you could end up fucking him with a strapon. Point is someone needs to be open about it and by th sounds of it it has to be you.

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  • ccjigsaw

    If my bf was into something but he only wanted to do it by himself, I'd be bugged to. I mean especially with anal stuff, you think a girl could help a guy out lol Especially since you really wnat to!! How would he feel if you liked rubbing your nipples during sex, but when he tried, you were like >.> NO!

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  • dappled

    It's completely normal for him to enjoy this and it's completely normal for you to want to share in it, and for it to turn you on.

    Problem is, it's got this weird issue of being associated with homosexuality and many men are petrified of the word "gay" being in any way linked with them.

    Logically, anything a man and a woman do together is heterosexual. Even if you buy yourself a big strap-on, pretend to be a man and make him pretend to be a gay man. Even *that* is straight.

    Maybe he needs some reassurance. Or maybe "gay" needs to stop being an insult.

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  • CindaFuknRellasOtherSide

    Thank you for reassuring me. I'm not sure how to reassure him when he has still yet to open up about it, and I have several times let him know that I am aware that something is going on and to PLEASe talk to me about it. I've told him about my case of "penis envy" and how I've often fantasized about what I would do if I had kne for a day. I've talked about brining a girl into bed with us and how I'd love to use a strap on on her... I've told him how my exes liked ass play... Nothin... He just won't friken budge. He never says an outright "no way"! But I've never looked right at him and asked him straight out if he does do that and may I join...:( hoHum what's a girl to do?

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