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When my mother died the very night I learned about it I had sex just for comfort. Is that weird? I feel like it is because i guess i shouldnt be enjoying myself right after my own mother died.Please help :/
Normal. I had a similar situation with a friend of mine when her grandmother (who had raised her like a mother) died. It is a good distraction.
That is totally normal.
I masturbate when I get depressed or anxious. If the husband is around, then I will have sex.
It's normal, you shouldn't feel bad, your mom would understand, you needed comfort.
A friend of mine is going through a bad break-up at the moment and he asked me if it was normal that he wanted to have meaningless sex with someone. I said it was because he is upset and wants some form of comfort.
Actually, if the depression is bad enough we don't want anything but death.
Bullshit I have depression and it's actually made me more fearful of death than I was before it developed, if anything I'm paranoid that life is passing by too quickly and I can't keep up which is part of why I'm depressed.
yes! death!!! it's hard to lose ur mother! BUT ur not having a party ..it is just sex ,, A way to feel love in your desperation and loneliness and it can helps u to NOT KILL YOURSELF...
i don't think that his depression is not bad enough i think he needs to live and he has goals in his life ..
Yes, you have nothing to feel guilty about. There's nothing wrong with seeking some intimacy to comfort yourself
A friend of mine was on a patrol through Baghdad a few years ago, and there was a female in the humvee with him and the two other guys, they didn't know each other. They take an IED, Humvee disabled, two guys in the front dead, but my friend and the female soldier are okay, they pile out, dive into an alley, she trips and falls, he trips over and falls on her. They rolled to the side to make sure someone wasn't coming out to hose their humvee down and finish what the bomb started (not uncommon), and after they realized nobody (no terrorist, that is) was coming for them, they did it right there in the alley, both of 'em covered with brains and they didn't even know each others' first name.
We like to pretend otherwise, but death and sex are two aspects of the same thing. Especially when the death, as in this example, was spectacular and violent, the release, rush, and exhilaration of survival are almost sexual in how intense and powerful they are, and the comedown from adrenaline can make you awfully loopy.
But no, you're not weird. Same thing happened for me when my mom died, and after her funeral. My girlfriend and I fucked like bunnies. It was really the only comfort to be had. A hell of a lot better than drinking myself stupid.
Sex is an emotional "release".... you did something to make you feel better..... some ppl just cry :)
This is not about comfort. This is a coping mechanism, to reaffirm to yourself that you are still alive. It is quite common, actually, to take more pleasure in many various activities within a few weeks after the passing of someone close to you, someone you always thought would always be with you. It is merely proving to yourself that even though you are mortal, even though you will die, you are still alive at that moment.
When you orgasm, especially if you've been working towards orgasiming for a while, it feels very good because your body releases endorphins which I'm sure you know what that is and a chemical in your brain called dopeamine. And yes your body actually produces a chemical called dopeamine. It, obviously, controls excitement and happiness. This is your body just trying to lessen the severity of the depression you are in.
comfort is a hug not the fully whack you're all bloody pervs that think this is ok
It's normal to search comfort when you are in a situation like that. Don't worry about it.