I forgot who my boyfriend is

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A few years back I started dating this guy. We had been friends for about two years before we started dating he wanted me but I was interested in someone else at the time then finally I gave in and we got close and fell head over hills for one another we were 17 years old. About 6 months after we started dating he ended up going to prison. He got 6 years in prison. Of course I'm here for him. While awaiting to be sentence I went and seen him atleast twice a week. Until he was sent across state to prison where I went and seen him once. For about 2 years he stayed in trouble so I could never go see him. I didn't see him for 2 whole years we stayed in contact by phone in letters at least 5 or 6 letters a week. I told him I love him and he loves me. The plan is for us to spend the rest of our lives together so after to two years of not seeing him I finally go see him. But when I see him I'm like who the f%*k is this? I didn't even know him I didn't even recognize him, he looked the same but different it was a shock to me like omg this is who I have been talking to for 3 years I don't even know him.... I didn't want to sit by him or touch him or anything he had to make me come sit by him.I've gone to see him about 7 or 8 times since then and he can see the difference in me he speaks on it a lot. When he looks at me, I can see he loves me in his eyes but I don't love him back. Everytime I see him its mind bogging like I've created this persona of him in my head but when I see the actual him its hard to connect the two. I continue on with our relationship like this isn't happening and he's due to get out in a month or so and I don't know how I'm going to handle it. I think I love the idea of him more so than the actual person and I'm thinking maybe I can pretend this isnt happening and just deal with it as it comes. But is it normal?

OAN: I don't care to hear how you feel about a man in prison and how you think I can do better than some low life. Save it

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    The thing about prison is that it changes a persons character. Prison is horrible. I don't care who a person is- when you go through something as horrible as prison, you pick up a brain problem or two. See, you have this idea in your head of a man that used to, and still wants to, exist.
    If you don't have feelings for him, do both of you a favor and move on. But if you do, be prepared to help him face the mental and emotional challenges of the outcome of a prison cell.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    When I was 20 I had a girlfriend for 6 months and I had to move to Oklahoma for 6 months so she broke up with me because she didnt want to wait. When I got back she was married to someone else. It makes me wonder why someone would wait 6 years for someone in prison.

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  • Caryopteris
    11 years ago

    Of course you don't know him. Of course you don't feel close to him. Of course you have filled in the gaps of what you know with what you wish him to be. This is a very immature relationship. It sounds like you are waking up and realizing that. It sounds like you need to try to be less emotional and more logical in your choices if you want a good life.

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  • little_freak
    11 years ago

    tl dr

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    • Shackleford96
      11 years ago

      turd-licking dog rapist?

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      • little_freak
        11 years ago

        ...lovely

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        • Shackleford96
          11 years ago

          XD

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