I find the traditional family repulsive

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Is it just me or does anyone else find the traditional 'normal' nuclear family (eg 2 married parents and children) disgusting?

Firstly I hate that the parents have a sexual relationship with each other and yet the relationship between everyone else is strictly platonic.
It seems weird to have these different types of relationships coexisting in the same house. I don't like that the parents sleep in the same bed, yet they often won't tell their children why. They have created their children through sex but try not to let their children know about sex and even tell them it's dirty, while creating more children while existing children already live there under the same roof. Then when the children get older and want to have relationships and bring their partners home, the parents often say that they can't be alone with their partner under 'their roof' and they don't feel comfortable about it, even though they have been having sex under that roof while their children were there.

Secondly, the parents make all the rules and decisions and have most of the money and have all the authority and often abuse this authority. What's more they sometimes make their children feel guilty or inferior by saying how it is MY house I paid for it and you didn't, I own it and you don't pay for anything etc. But the kids don't come into the world with money or assets of their own and are dependent on their parents for everything, so they shouldn't have to feel like a burden or less important for not owning what their parents took decades to accrue .

Thirdly, there is a great lack of equality in the house. Parents seem to often love each other more than they love their kids, and expect their kids to leave once they become adults, but I don't think all kids are aware that once they reach a certain age that they will be expected to leave and the parents will want to live their own life without the kids (I know this isn't true in all cases). The parents seem to merge into a single entity in many cases and it can't just be one or the other it has to be 'us' or 'we' and they gang up against their children as a pair.

I think it would be so much nicer to have more of a round table situation where everyone was an equal and contributed equally. I am secretly jealous of people whose parents are divorced or sleep in separate rooms.

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  • chunkybongo
    13 years ago

    How naive you are...your parents could have decided NOT to have kids at all, in which case all the piles of money they spent clothing and feeding you, and paying for medical expenses and trips to the dentist could have been spent on vacations to the Carribbean instead! Creating a family is difficult and costly. Your suggestion of a roundtable democracy is patently absurd. You, the child, have absolutely no right to question your parents, who know all kinds of things you have yet to even experience or dream of! Today's youth think they know more than their own parents, and it's a load of horseshit. (I myself am in my thirties, and am basically young myself, so I'm not some middle-aged person lecturing you here either.)

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    You know the first part sounds like you are trying to say you want sex with your parents. Yes bond between child and parent SHOULD BE PLATONIC? Did you want to make it sexual? Are you jealous of your dad having sex with mom and want to join or vice versa? Also you know if your parents never slept together they would not have you.

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  • anabolic19
    14 years ago

    erm I kinda know what you mean but don't because my family isn't exactly normal first off my brother is 26 and he dosn't want to move out
    my parents have never really given us rules were just expected to have respect for the house and if we don't we get punished which is fair enough,
    and as for the sex thing my parents don't mind atall I've been having sex in my house for about 2 years now never said a thing I always just go into my room with my girlfriend and i lock the door lol

    so i can see how the situations in your post could annoy you but its all about growing up you have to deal with what your given my friend if you dont like somthing your parents do to you just make sure you don't do the same to your kids.

    and alot of the time parents try to push you because they think there making the best decision for you when in fact there making more problems but like i said its all about growing up

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  • Kat444
    14 years ago

    Parents and their children shouldn't be equal. Parents are adults and their kids are kids! They've lived longer and know more. You wouldn't want students to be equal with their teachers, would you? Nothing would ever get done! Parents are there to raise and teach and nurture their children until they are capable of taking care of themselves. How do you expect parents to do this if kids just brush off their rules?

    I'm not saying that kids should have no say in what happens to them. If a child has a reasonable idea or request, the parent should listen to them. But parents shouldn't have to argue with the kid about every decision that they make. Sometimes they have to be able to say "You will do this because I say so, and that's final". The kid may not understand, but often parents are thinking of their child's best interests when they do this. Kids migh tnot always like it in the short run, but in the long run they should be grateful for all that their parents have done to help them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I think you are jealous of your parents!

    Well they are the adults and you are not. They are married and you are not. They earn the money and own the things they pay for and you don't. They worked to get were they are and you are not there (yet). They are the parents raising & supporting you and you are their child.

    Some day you will grow up, get an education/skills, work, become independent, be self supporting, and will decide for yourself what kind of family - traditional or otherwise - you will have, if at all.

    OK - your parents aren't perfect. But they are probably doing the best they can. And you want to be more than you are right now. All that is OK.

    But instead of getting bitter and critical over your sense of instant entitlement to something more - try helping out, being respectful, and doing well in school etc.. Its your job to grow up.

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  • Ohiosweete008
    14 years ago

    My parents are guilty of all those things. But I don't want to have sex in my house..it would make me feel awkward. Thinking about my parents doing it is a bit awkward too, but they do own the place and have nowhere else to. Whereas guys parents are always cool about it, so its never a big deal to go there, or in college, or a guy with his own place. It is lame how parents act like sex is the worst thing in the world, when it is actually the most normal thing.

    Kids are a bit of a burden. But parents are responsible for them no matter what. I think when parents hold how much they do for kids over their heads it is out of frustration that they feel like they are living their life for someone who isnt appreciating it. Parents who work hard to have a home and provide for their families, but think of all they are giving up to have this family. And kids do often act like brats and not help out with things they can. Parents aren't perfect, but neither are children, and it's quite alright.

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