I feel ugly because of my race?

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I'm an 18 year old female born in the Carribbean but was raised in the US as a toddler (just a little background) and I feel as though nobody is romantically attracted to me. I'm not entirely unattractive but I'm definitely the second choice... I have a decent body, round hips and chubby thighs and I'm average... not skinny but not chubby. I've never been in a relationship with anyone nearby, Ive only dated long distance since no one asked me out in person and I was shy to approach people I liked. I used to lie about my race online because I felt as if no one was attracted to black females so I avoided that topic. I've been in several relationships with two guys online, one lived in the same state as me just miles away and the other lived in the Bahamas. Recently, a guy asked me out in person and I freaked out and told him to ask someone else?? So to sum it up, I feel like no one likes me romantically because I'm somewhat unattractive compared to females around me?

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  • KiwiWisdom
    5 years ago

    Someone liked you enough to ask you out in person. It isn't your look that's the issue, it's self esteem. Calling yourself the second choice is just being plain mean to yourself. There's a book I hear is supposed to be good called "Guys Like Girls Who. . ." By Chad Eastham. Humor me and look it up, it might help you.

    In case you don't though the take away from this is to just realize before you go any further into the dating scene that you might want to take some time to find reasons to like yourself first. Calling yourself names is just going to make you feel bad about yourself, so please be kinder. Don't compare yourself or you'll always be behind the next person, compare you to you instead and build yourself up on what you've accomplished toward your goal instead of what you haven't. Care about yourself and you'll have a much easier time of finding someone to care for you.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Love yourself to build up self esteem.

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  • Funstable
    5 years ago

    I just felt really bad for you when reading this. I'm sorry you feel this way and I hope you learn to love yourself.

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