I feel really alone..

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I've been going through a rough patch lately. I just graduated from high school this year, and I'm beginning college. I'm going to a community college, so I'm still living at home, and my closest friends are doing the same, so I haven't really lost anyone, but lately I've been feeling very lonely. I'm a shy person, I'm short, and I look five years younger than I really am, (18.) So I have self-esteem issues, and this makes it really hard for me to talk to people, because I'm so used to being judged for my appearance. I haven't even been able to talk to any girls. I honestly don't know what's wrong with me.

However, I think the main reason I'm feeling this way is because I lost the one person I truly loved. We never even dated, but we have been having issues, and recently something happened, and we aren't even friends anymore. I haven't seen her in over three months now and I miss her everyday. I tried harder than anything to work things out, but it seems like it's an impossibility. Even if we do work them out we won't be friends anymore. She was the only girl I was really close to, so now all of my friends are male, and that sucks. I have some girls I'm friends with, but I'm not really close to any of them, and I don't ever get to see any of them.

Honestly, I don't know what to do with my life. I don't have a clue what I want to do for a career. I'm slowly watching my entire life change, and I'm starting to miss the people I've grown up. The worst part about all of this is I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to about anything. That's why I'm on here..I feel like I'm the only person in the world sometimes, and I hate this feeling. I wish I could find a girl to have in my life, but I don't know if I'll ever feel the same way I felt for that last girl. Besides, what's the point? No girl has ever liked me. I've never had a girlfriend, or even my first kiss. This makes it even harder now that I'm in college. I know that most of the girls aren't even virgins anymore. I just want someone I can relate to, but honestly, I feel like I was born to be alone and unhappy..

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  • Pandabear16
    10 years ago

    In all honesty... Stop bitching... There are a lot more people who have it worst. You just gotta be strong man, your life is barely beginning. As of right now you don't need a girl to make you happy. You, yourself can make you HAPPY. Just smile even though everything is not alright...fake it through if you have to. Just know when the time comes for you to be happy, you'll look back at this post and think wtf was i so sad?!

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    Break out of your shell. If you do you'll meet a lot more people and become happier. :) Good luck! I know you can survive your dilemma!

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    • Terence_the_viking
      10 years ago

      Ha ha happy time.

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  • kasu
    10 years ago

    I won't be judging you or anything, because we are about the same age. What I did was join a volunteering organization. Seriously, it has made my life so much better, and I can assure you that doors will be opened for you once you start saying "yes" and take action, one step at a time. You will find, for example in an organization such as AIESEC, people from all around the world. Hell, I met some guy who looked like a model from Luxembourg and he likes being a couch potato. Or someone really short who had a lot of awesome things to say. You learn a lot when you step out of the comfort zone, it takes just a moment to say: okay, let me be in charge of my life and stop being so negative.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    I do know how you feel but you have to retrain your thoughts. You don't need anyone else to make you happy. Like someone has said before me, you can only make you happy . Tell yourself positive and encouraging things, even if you don't believe them yet. Good luck =]

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    There's 7 billion people, you'll find one that likes you.

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  • dietcoke
    10 years ago

    Gosh, you're only 18, why do you sound so miserable about dating? I believe what you're going through now is part of growing up. It's totally normal. You won't be lonely for the rest of your life. Instead, you will meet loads of different people as you move on.

    My advice to you is that you should find your priorities (other than relationships) that would stand you in good stead in life beyond college. You need to know you're entering college because you are trying to find your own way to survive in this big wide world. It's not too early to think about your career plans now. Also, discover your interests e.g. an academic topic, a sport, a extracurricular club, etc. As you work on these priorities, you'll meet people of similar interests. That's a common and normal way to meet other people. Good luck!

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  • Twickers
    10 years ago

    Get yourself involved in other activities....and voila, you will meet more people....and sooner or later....you might even meet someone you like! More people are in the same boat you are then you can even imagine.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    First of all, You have to learn how to be happy by yourself, without girlfriends or someone else. You are the only one able to make your life more enjoyable. It's easier said than done, I know but trust me, I've gone through pretty much the same thing you are living now two years ago. Things will get better with girls but you need to give a boost for that. You are in a community college now. It's a totally new world with a lot of different persons and new opportunities. So don't hesitate to socialize, meet girls and boys, expand your circle of friends! Don't stay stuck in the past. You won't forget and replace that special girl in your heart, because people that we loved one day are still important to us, but you may want to open up new people. Go out, have fun, meet people.

    I kissed a boy for the first time when I was 19. I'm 20 soon 21 and now I finally have a boyfriend. You're just 18. Not having someone in your life for the time being is not a problem. Focus mainly on your studies. Be patient. I've been thinking for a very long time that I was intended to be simply alone.It changed two years later. Things will change for you, probably faster than me ! haha

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