I feel obliged to make friends.

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I don't want friends. I used to have friends, but then I moved and realized that I really didn't miss them too much. That was when I was 9. I have grown more and more independent. Some people have tried to befriend me and that's fine, but I never put in the effort to be more than acquaintances. I've NEVER felt lonely.

But whenever I go to the movies or a restaurant, I can feel people staring at me for watching them by myself. I always feel depressed that I have no friends even if I don't want friends.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Enjoy the peace and quiet of your own company and ignore the sideways glances. Those people envy your confidence at being able to go out alone without needing a babysitter like they do.

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  • pennyroyal
    12 years ago

    You can imply nothing from other's behaviour.take it easy and don't think to much.
    mabye that’s just someone who want to have a romentic relationship with U,so they keep their eyes on you~
    trust me that's nothing.

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  • bimomate
    14 years ago

    Meh, I only really want 1 or two friends. The rest of the world can stfu

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    • PoisonFlowers
      14 years ago

      Yep.

      To the OP - if you are fine without friends and do not feel lonely, then don't feel obliged. What's the probelm? The people staring? Why do you feel so self conscious about having no friends? If you are truly happy without friends, then you shouldn't let this bother you. These people don't know you after all. Also, the general public tend not to give a damn (where I'm from anyway.) Otherwise, you have to look deeper into your feelings.

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  • laurabot
    14 years ago

    noone notices if you're alone or not.
    i went through a phase where i didn't want friends but eventually i got a bit lonely and i forced myself to make some and it was fun

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  • got_the_tee_shirt_and_scars
    14 years ago

    If you want to have friends, you first need to be cool with your own company, or you'll come across as needy, the best friendship killer ever.

    I used to feel the same way. I have more acquaintances than friends, and that suits me just fine. I never feel lonely, and can go for days without talking to someone I know.

    Did you ever think that maybe some of those people might envy you, being by yourself, instead of putting up with a yammering date or friend?

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  • VxOsx
    14 years ago

    You sound very self-conscious to me. I'm like that as well, I hate being alone, and I feel people are staring at me etc.

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    Nobody judges you negatively for simply being alone. It's your imagination. Think about what that might mean.

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