I feel no one cares about me?

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Lately I've been feeling that no one really cares about me. I'm in college now, and when I was in high school years ago, I struggled with some depression. I got basically completely better, which was great! But I worry that I may be sinking into depression again.

I have very few close friends. Lately the people I consider to be my true friends aren't making any attempt to visit with me or talk to me. They NEVER answer my texts or invitations to hang out. I kind of am developing an "I'll show them" kind of attitude where I haven't been texting them, hoping that my ignoring them would encourage then to text/call/message me. But they continue to forget about me. One of my best friends claims she is too busy to visit, but I see recent pics of her on facebook where she's at the pool with a bunch of her other friends, or out drinking with them, etc. This has happened like three times in the past month...

I just feel so lonely :'( no one ever reaches out to me. I am kind of bad at making new friends, so I haven't made many new friends at college. Plus I'm not very close with my family, so I feel isolated all day most of the time. What should I do? The loneliness is taking over.... I just want someone to pay attention to me and care about me for once. Now I'm starting to get paranoid, like every unanswered text is purposely ignored. I know that's illogical, but I can't help but indulge in these bitter, lonely feelings.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You sound a lot like somebody I know.

    He complains all the time that nobody cares about him.
    He has admitted to me that he would go weeks without initiating contact as a test to see if I would, which I didn't and then he was upset about it, which was just absurd and only made me not want to hang out with him because neediness is not a good trait.

    It wasn't that I didn't care about him, like he accuses everyone. I'm sure if he needed to go to the hospital or something I would help, but it's not my job to comfort his insecurities.

    Most people have their own lives outside of you. It doesn't mean they don't care. Most people don't need to see the same people all the time.

    Just like my friend you admit to not going out and meeting new people and doing things on your own yet you expect people you know to do what you want.

    Most people do not have many close friends but they have lots of acquaintances.

    Seriously every time my friend whines that "nobody cares about him" I want to smack him in the face.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      The point I'm trying to make is that just because the same people don't want to hangout all the time doesn't mean that they don't care about you.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        9 years ago

        Yeah, but these are my two best friends I'm talking about. Surely its reasonable for me to expect them to care enough to contact me every now and then. They've been going months without talking to me or seeing me. Those dont sound like best friends to me... Its not like im asking for the moon, i just want people to frickin acknowledge me for once...

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          I guess it depends on the situation. The friend I was mentioning has been a close friend for a long time and I have even let him stay at my house when he was homeless and he still uses the "nobody cares about me" complaint when people help him all the time.

          It annoys me when he says that because people show they care in different ways. I'm the kind of friend that will help somebody if they need to go to the hospital or are stranded somewhere or any other serious problem, but I'm one of the last people to come to for emotional support, especially if I see the problem as annoying.

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  • perfectxsilence
    9 years ago

    I don't think people care about me either all except one person.

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  • itsme.com
    9 years ago

    Don't worry, I sometimes feel like that, but the best is to get out and make new friends. If those old friends ignore you, then they weren't really your friends, so go to the park, or somewhere else and talk to new people, try to get more confidence with your family and also you can get a pet to don't feel so lonely. :D Wish you the best!

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    Keep holding on!
    When my brain's tickin' like a bomb!
    Guess the black thoughts have come Again to get me!
    Sweet bitter words!
    Unlike nothing I have heard!
    Sing along mocking bird!
    You don't affect me!

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    • Berudagon
      9 years ago

      That's right!
      Deliver it to my heart!
      Please strike!
      Be deliberate!

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      • Berudagon
        9 years ago

        Coming a little undone aren't we, eh Johnny boy?

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        • Johnnytherat
          9 years ago

          indeed... i felt it was appropriate for the op

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Get out there more. Try talking to new people. The only way to get new friends is to get out there and try. And remember, we never lose friends, we just find out who the true friends are.

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