I feel misunderstood/like an object. iin?

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Why do I always feel misunderstood? Like just before, my mom offered me 100 dollars for christmas only if I cleaned the house. I said yes, and I asked if i'll still get the 10 bucks she owed me 1 month age (I know it was a no, just to confirm) then she called me ungrateful and said ok then ill just take it back and give it to someone who appreciates it. I always feel like people think im an object and that i dont deserve respect. It always makes me feel like crying, trying to figure out what i did wrong. ***PLEASE no hate comments like "you ungrateful bitch" please. if u think theres something wrong with MY actions, say it politley please THANK YOU****

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    I think you're very normal. If anyone here is not normal it's your mother. People shouldn't have to work for Christmas money if the money is a gift. And just because a gift happens to be a sizable amount of money doesn't mean it absolves the giver of any debt they owe the person the gift is being bestowed upon. Your mother sounds very opportunistic and I'm truly sorry she is choosing to behave this way towards you, her child. But what you can do is to not be like her and not treat your children, should you have any, in such an opportunistic way.

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  • o_0
    11 years ago

    there's a common advice my father keeps on giving me.. "there is a right time for everything to be done and if you do it before or after it, the thing ( your demand,your wish, your words) loose their real importance and the way they could be treated on their right time..."
    if you could have done that demand of money any other time like when she was in a good mood then maybe she could have said yes!!
    and if you really think that you aren't getting treated in a good way,may be thats because you complain too much or never do it... if never than let them know that it hurts you and if you do it every time then avoid doing it because that way they'll take it in-serious... you can also try to observe what actions you have been doing that have made them treat you this way start giving them more love and care and try to solve things in a flipped way for instance take advantage of the action of flattering.... TRY TO ACT MATURE THAT IS WHAT PARENTS LOVE TO SEE... :) :)
    also learn to tolerate 'concentrating so much on these things will disturb you totally...

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  • americanhoney
    11 years ago

    Why are you worried we will say you are an ungrateful bitch? Do YOU think you are an ungrateful bitch?

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    • sYki
      11 years ago

      Your joking right? It's cause she doesn't know what to think, she doesn't think she is being ungrateful but then her mother calls her one and she starts to question it. She finds this offensive and doesn't want others adding salt to the wound of her mother calling her this. Shes looking for insight not insults. Do you not have this thought condensed into a fraction of a fraction of a sec after reading her plea to not call her that or am I just that awesome? Pardon my arrogance and condescension... I don't want to be misunderstood ;)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Many people feel "misunderstood" (lol), disabused, and cheated.

    Unfortunately, often times it's not that you're misunderstood as it is you misunderstanding others.

    It's easy to empathize with our own cause; hard to relate to those outside of it.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I think it's very easy to feel misunderstood. Very easy for me anyway. It happens to me all the time, and I hate it. For me, it helps to work out why it's happening and what is making them misunderstand you. I try to think about my own behaviour, the things I say, the way I present myself, and try to work out how others might interpret that. That usually works for me, although maybe you're already doing that.

    It's not deliberate, and I don't think it's either side's fault. You know what you mean and what you think, but it might not be coming across. Happens to me often, and to others to, it's nothing unusual (I think:P). Maybe she's just misinterpreted what you've said completely. Either way, why not just talk to her about it?

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