I feel like i am loosing out!

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I am 29. I went to college late, so I work weekends at a good paying, yet sort of redundant/boring job. I really want to have kids and have a family. some days it just feels like I'll never get there. I see all my friends and they have children and the marriage and the house and I get so down about it. Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on myself about it- is it just normal to feel like this? are there others who feel the same way? I just want more than what I have right now.

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  • peachesncream
    14 years ago

    I know to an extent how you are feeling. Just remember this: Things are not always as they seem.

    People do things because they feel there is nothing else to do and because society tells them to do this and that at a certain age. Don't fall for it as there is no one size for all for happiness.

    Stay focus and dedicated. You are not missing anything. I don't want to sound pessimistic, but a lot of people with these families/cars etc are not really happy. Lots of infidelity or they want to cheat but can't for some reason. And children (unless you have them with regards that you will love them no matter what they do) are not all gravy as they are made out to be. Most will not be who you want them to be. And many couples are very disappointed with how their children turned out.

    Wait until you are ready to make the move. The grass is always greener on the other side, but it's an illusion as there are good and bad risks to both sides. Enjoy your freedom and relax.

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  • blackdove
    14 years ago

    Yeah, don't be so hard on yourself. I think all that stuff will come to you eventually. People don't want to get left behind, and it's normal to feel that way when you see your friends getting married and stuff. But just really try to find happiness with what you have, don't try to search for anything.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    I'm older but remember those feeling. Its normal and good to want good things in your life. A lot of those things come along if you work at it. Don't be too hard on yourself in the meantime. It won't bring you the things you want.

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  • UtopianCosmos
    15 years ago

    I feel the same way :(

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  • CloseOne
    15 years ago

    i think its normal, i feel like that to sometimes.

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    • BrianPomona126
      14 years ago

      I'm 21 and still havn't been able to afford my first car yet. Everywhere I look, people my age and younger are driving around in nice cars, while I'm still riding my Schwinn bicycle from Target. Most people I know have their license and are driving... except me :(

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