I feel like a need to have a baby.

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Since I have been 12 or so I have felt this really powerful desire to be pregnant. It's like, sometimes I get this feeling in my gut that I should get pregnant, or I think about how nice it would be to get pregnant. When other women are knocked up and complain about morning sickness and getting big I just feel super jealous. When I masturbate I fantasize about a guy coming inside me, and whenever I see a hot guy I think about what it would be like to have his child. I'm only eighteen and intellectually I know I shouldn't have a baby, but oftentimes I want one so bad it literally hurts me. I also feel like I need to have a baby right away, like I'm about to hit menopause. Each time I have my period I get really sad because I'm losing an egg, and some months I even name the egg like it's a really baby, but then when my period comes it kinda feels like I'm miscarrying and it makes me even more upset. Is this normal?

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  • NothingSpecial
    11 years ago

    You sound like you TRULY want to be a mother, and that's healthy and normal. Sadly I know so many women who only marry or have children because of society's expectations that women take on the homemaker role, but if you want to have a baby because you personally want to and not out of pressure then yes, it's normal. Just wait until you feel responsible for a child. You'll know when it's time. Also don't listen to the people who say to wait until you're married. Children don't need both a mother and a father. Do what YOU think sounds best for you, when YOU personally feel ready, capable and responsible. (:

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    • flowergirl87
      11 years ago

      So right about society's expectations etc... people should do it because they truly feel it in their hearts, not to tick a box!

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  • flowergirl87
    11 years ago

    Ahh bless you. I'm a good few years older than you and I get like this too : / Although, I can't say I've ever named an egg. I do think about how each month I'm losing one, though! It's hard but it's definately the better move to wait until it's a good time. You'll enjoy it all so much more when you're financially and emotionally secure enough and obviously it will be a preferable outcome for the kid. Look forward to it but for now, try to put your energy into something else. I do know how hard it is to ignore that maternal thing. I am stupidly jealous of people with babies and I have to work hard to deal with those feelings. Basically, I hear you!

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    Super clucky! Wait, your only 18. U have plenty of time.

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  • Laddie2468
    13 years ago

    Parrenthood looks great. But wait till ur married!! It will make things so much better to have a daddy around :)

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    it sounds like you want to be a mom, and you will be a great parent someday. but it's best to wait until you're married, so the baby has both a mom and a dad :)

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