I feel like a man will never be able to give me what i need...

I'm a 19 year old woman and I have always considered myself bisexual, although I have only ever been with men (although I have kissed girls before and have been very exited when doing so). I have dated lots of men and have been in 2 serious relationships. The last man I was with I considered my first love so because of all this, I always considered myself to like men more than women.
Lately this seems to have changed. The more experienced I become, the more I know what I want in a partner. I want someone who is sensitive, soft, gentle, sweet, emotional and attentive. I want to be with someone who wants to talk and who isn't always the first person to have to get off the phone. I don't like any sort of dominance or aggressiveness from a man to the point where any sign of it turns me off instantly. Even when it comes to physical appearance, I like my men to be short and scrawny and preferably have a small penis because I don't really like the feeling of a penis inside me. But when I am with my partner I want to please him and I do give head and hand jobs.
But if it were up to me, sex would only be talking, cuddling, kissing, hand holding and oral sex... no intercourse at all because it just seems to me that every time intercourse starts, my sexual arousal drops and I just become unhappy. When it's happening, I just want to get it over with as fast as possible.
I've also noticed that I don't check out men anymore and when I get hit on by them even if they are cute, I have a hard time feeling exited about it. But I do notice women more now and find some of them very beautiful and curvy. Lately it has also been a recurring fantasy of mine to be intimate with another women.

With all this said, I'm just starting to feel like the overwhelming majority of men wouldn't be able to provide what the softness I need and that maybe I would be much happier with a woman. I'm not sure what my feelings mean. Am I bisexual and I prefer more "feminine" men or am I a lesbian? I don't know what to think anymore! Would really like some one else's opinion. Is this normal?

P.S. I have always had male friends (some gay) and am very comfortable around men. I've never really had any female friends only 1 or 2 female acquaintances.