I feel inadequate because i dont smoke weed.

Trust me it's NOT for everyone which is something that pol don't seem to understand. Don't be jealous of them either u might be an uppers person not saying to do drugs but you're either one way or the other or none which is the smartest.

First off, you don't know how to smoke weed properly. You must start off from a place of complete self-assurance...you can't be insecure about yourself or your interactions with the world or else, as you said, you become hyper-critical.

Second, weed is fun, it's relaxing, but it really shouldn't be used if you have shit to do. It's a Thanksgiving/Christmas/Spring Break kind of thing at best if you're a working individual.

Finally, if you gotta fit in with the cool kids, get to know yourself by yourself on weed first. Then slowly add outside stimuli until you can utilize that hyper-analytical mindset without rendering judgement and freaking out about it.

It's perfectly OK that you don't smoke. But it is also perfectly OK for them to smoke. Nobody looks down on you for not smoking, so try to remember that when you get irritable, OP. Hopefully you can overcome this and realize that we're all human beings and some of us like to smoke, others don't, and it's perfectly OK because you're doing what makes you happy.

if you don't wanna smoke then you shouldn't. but if you do want to enjoy it, make sure you just take a puff or two, and see how you feel. you don't have to hit it everytime it comes around. maybe go out in nature or somewhere relaxing by yourself, or maybe just you and your girl, and get used to it. if it gives you anxiety, chances are you have anxiety issues without it too. it could actually help you learn to center, ground, and deal with anxiety without the help of xanax. i've tripped my balls off and now feel like i can deal with any mental health issues i have.

LOL I have always felt weird for not smoking pot(I am actually alergic) drinking much or doing any other drugs. Glad to hear it isn't just me.

I liked to smoke weed but even the thought makes me paranoid. Best not to go near drugs there's enough things out there that are bad for you without putting that shot in your body

If you take .05 mg of xanax, or the equivalent dose of any other benzodiazapine when you smoke, all of the symptoms you described will go away. I used to feel the same exact way when I smoked, but I found the trick is to pop a chill pill, Phill.
Talk to a doctor, explain how weed makes you anxious, and they will likely prescribe something to take the edge off.

Inadequate

if the weed is making you re-think the relationship then its not a strong connection to begin with so ya you might as well just end it now. but don't let weed get in the way of someone you really like... cuz it really isn't a big deal to people that like doing it and it really doesn't say much about who they really are as people

You're being daft!

You're not inadequate. It's that simple... you shouldn't be worried about not liking something just because the people you're with do it.

If they're good people then they wouldn't think any less of you for it. Don't smoke and don't let anyone make you feel like you should. Make a stand if you have to. They should respect you for it.

If not... maybe you just don't need those people in your life.

Do as you please. But if it makes you feel uncomfortable do something about it.

Nah. I wouldn't anyways.

If you date someone who smokes, more chance you will too. Don't kill your self. Date a nice girl/ guy