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It makes me feel good because nothing is more deserved than to be destroyed by what you created.
Hahaha well I'll give you an unpopular opinion. Not all adults who abuse children are fucking sociopaths. A lot of them just have emotional problems and were abused as kids too. They aren't ALL incapable of change. Despite the usual belief, people CAN change.
My Mom and I are very good friends now and she is a far better Mother to my sister than she was when I was living there (moved out at 18). It is a surprise to everyone who knows or who knew her or saw what she did sometimes. I was not a bad kid and I had a lot of friends on my side, a lot of them being adults who had dealt with her and that fuckin temper and seen the way she did us. It's true though, we have a good relationship now. We've talked a LOT about it.
She is very sorry and regrets the living hell out of it all. She believed things about me that weren't true and I finally realized that it wasn't worth fighting about or resisting and to just take her shit and not try to be right. I'm a fucking whore because I didn't do the dishes for one night out of the entire fucking month and there was a pan in the sink. I'm sorry, ma'am. I'm a useless, careless bitch for failing the 7th grade because I couldn't pass Algebra even though they made me study 6 hours every other night, and my second day in the 7th grade repeat, they bumped me back up to 8th because I knew every other subject, I made A's and B's in everything but math and took some honors classes when I cared to, they didn't feel the need to hold me back because of one bad Math grade and I passed 8th grade Math.
The physical abuse, I'd rather not talk about but that's what makes it all the more miraculous that now she regrets it, asked what she could do to make it up to me and I told her to be a better parent to my sister who is 7 years younger than me. It's been 4 years and she's held up her end of the bargain.
My Dad just proves your point the other way. I'm just assuming he's a sadist until he talks to me again. He openly admits that he pulled some fucked up shit and when I told him that my Mom and I get along now so please stop talking shit about her and he hasn't talked to me, it's been 5 years. I've never felt a need to apologize, I asked him politely and he just got pissed, it's a reasonable request. I still forgive him though but I'm not interested in making amends, I can have a good relationship with the both of them without there being drama.
Don't be so quick to give up on people.