I feel guilty for saying no to friendship. iin?

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We broke up two weeks ago, and both agreed it was the best thing for both of us. We. It's still like each other. We saw each other today, because he really wanted to give me my early birthday gift, even though I insisted it was unnecessary. It was the first time we saw each other since we broke up. We cried most of the time, and because I still have feelings for me I find it difficult to be with him. I know he feels the same, but he claims he feels comfortable staying friends.

I said that we will both move on quicker of we don't keep in touch. He didn't take his lightly and was visibly sad. He doesn't have a support network like I do, and I feel guilty for rejecting his friendship offer. Is this normal?

Did I do the right thing?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Absolutely! A clean break is a lot easier and much less cruel that the long lingering death of a love. Perhaps after several years, if you both have moved on to other relationships you could rekindle the friendship.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      I agree: the only times I've seen former lovers end up as friends is when there's been a break between the end of the lover relationship and the friendship.

      In theory, lovers (as opposed to sex buddies) would have enough in common and enough mutual affection to remain friends after they stop being sexual lovers, but in practice it's a hard thing to do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thank you for that

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    That's a real pickle. I think you were following you intuition and that is always the best policy. I remember when me and my girl friend decided to just be "friends" after we broke up. It turned into a shit show and we ended up hating each other.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I've remained friends with my ex's. Personally I would have been more upset if they didn't stay friends because we got along good enough to have a relationship, so why not stay friends. I would probably take it personal and have a harder time getting over the breakup otherwise, but I don't understand many people's reasonings.

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  • Ms.Dempsy
    8 years ago

    You did what you thought was best. So you should feel no regrets

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  • BlackyHancock
    8 years ago

    Just being 'friends' after a relationship doesn't usually work.

    One (or both) of the partners usually want to get back into bed and rekindle the sexual relationship under the guise of just enjoying the sex.

    This just leads to more pain and heartbreak. I speak from long experience!

    A friendship can sometimes be ok after several years break.

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