I feel crushed.

ah yes. the classic story. same thing happened to me, in the exact same way. but it was the 2nd girl i ever bothered with. it made me realise that fearing rejection brings worse pain than not. it's better to try to suceed and risk failiure than to fail by risking success. and if they both knew of your feelings, then she's not the person you thought she was, now is she? as for the relative, just go on as if nothing happened. you'll meet someone else eventually. if paranoia is all you have left, then do something that you fear gravely. you can't run from your fears forever. eventually your fears will catch you, and when they do, you're too tired to fight back.

i can kinda see your paranoid, but so am i.
you situation sounds like depression.
like so many things these days sound like depression...
depression is taking over the f*cking world.
anyway back to you. you kinda remind me of me a couple months back when i guy i liked turned around and said some really really abnormally mean things to me.
i trusted no one, i cried all the time, i didnt leave me room and all i did was sleep. i lost alot of weight because i stopped eating as well.
the only advice i can truely give you is to not give up, i know youve probably heard this all before and im probably not going to help out much... but, everyone has a purpose and everyone has needs. never in your life will all your needs be fufilled, but it takes time to make it up to those little levels to make you feel better.
things will be better, youll just snap out of it one day an be ready to be happy again.

You are basing your happiness on external factors. This is guaranteed to fail because one loss suddenly becomes a downward spiral. You must be at peace with yourself first. This will bring good things into your life. People like people who like themselves. When you are at peace with yourself, you will emanate good vibes and others will gravitate towards you. You will gain good, reliable friends.

But don't make that a goal. Just know that that's what will happen if you attain inner peace.

To be at peace, simply quiet the mind and enjoy the present moment as often as possible.

Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle for more :)

You need serious help maybe this is why the girl went with someone else you are gonna have to change a bit to have a good life. Start by forgetting about this girl and maybe look for a new job doing what you do now but with better pay. When youve done that try and find a new girl that should pick things up a bit

Screw their advice up above. LOL

Listen I'm assuming you are still a teen in high school living at home, right? Once you go on to college you won't have these problems anymore, because you will find a girlfriend and you will find friends who care about you. You will find a job you like, and have nice co-workers to be around.

Don't worry about this girl who hurt you, in fact you should even act like it doesn't bother you, and you should just be a complete asshole to her since that's what she's being to you. What you are going through and how you feel is very normal. If you put your mind to it even you can find happiness in your own misery.

I can't cope with the pain of my break up. Can't eat or sleep, I feel depressed. Can't sleep without the sleeping pills or wine. And to make things worse I think I’m getting addicted to them. How can I make myself feel better and sleep better?

I feel ya. I'm in an extremely simlilar situation, so I understand that for certain people, talking doesn't do anything. But hopefully, you can take comfort in the fact that you're not alone <3 don't give up hope

Sorry you are feeling down. Had my own hearth bruised more than I care for - a girl can do that to a guy, with or without intent.

Feel sorry for yourself a bit (I did) then pick yourself up and move on - that's normal.

But face it - if she does not love you, you would not be happy with her anyway.

Ultimately, like housecat said, others can not make you fulfilled and happy (sadly, they _can_ make you unhappy).

Once you learn to be happy and love yourself, not depend on others to do it, THEN you are ready to be loved by somone else.

I can't imagine there are many people who haven't felt crushed & humiliated like you. Its painful but you'll get through it. Try not to read too much into it and get too dramatic - and try not to dump so much on yourself. you'll just make it worse.

About the paranoia - I suspect thats you just dumping on yourself more - but if not, do see your family Dr.

hey... i think its pretty normal to feel a wide range of emotions at this time of age. its only logical that certain hard obstacles come towards us. the important thing to do is seperate from everything, and perhaps make a big change for yourself. this will help know yourself better, and thus be able to effectively communicate with those around you. noone is forced to love someone though, because the emotion itself is up to choice. (: just like you are not forced to love tht relative and girl! i would recomend confronting them, no matter how ridiculous they might react, and just let them know that...well that it wasnt cool! but that you wish them some form of a fullfilling life, and move on. try things you like, and meet people.

Cheer yourself up. None of what happened is your fault. Time will heal you. Meanwhile, look for a new job.
And that girl, if she went with other guy, she is not worth of your feeling. There must be a better girl for you out there.

u need to get her out of her mind.this has happened to me.time heals all wounds.

i know how you feel.
the whole, not happy away from home going crazy in home kinda feel. the worthless, unloved feeling. yea.
im sorry.
i know just how bad that is.

First of all the girl is not worth crying over, she but I do understand that your heartbroken. Move on and go out with your friends or people you know that care about you. I'm sure a great person and you will find a person that is worth loving very soon.

dude you got to get some meds asap, ever heard of antidepressants... The best antidepressant is good social interaction however, try changing your social circle radically.