I feel ashamed of being a virgin

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I'm 22 years old. I'm a decent looking guy but because of my anti-social ways or inability to get close with someone, I haven't been intimate in awhile. The most intimate I've been was kissing some girl back in the 7th grade during summer camp. It apparently was such a monumental occasion that I forgot entirely.

I'm not incapable of seducing someone. I've talked to girls about sex but when it comes down to it or when the signs are undeniably leading that way, I panic.

Now anytime I see anyone mentioning sex, no matter what it is, or how raunchy, I feel ashamed. I'm not even really looking for casual sex but the realization that I haven't been able to even if I wanted to crushes me.

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  • reallyalthea
    9 years ago

    I'm 22 Yrs old . Im a female .I'm still a virgin . I'm saving myself , until my husband comes along . I feel lonely sometimes because I have no one to talk too . But at the end of the day I'm a Virgin and I like it . I'm not rushing my self ! I'm also single .

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    • secretlyme
      9 years ago

      Yes

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      • reallyalthea
        9 years ago

        Yes Indeed ! :)

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    Nothing to be ashamed of but I think you need to exorcise that demon if its eating away at you. You need to find someone you feel comfortable with who is understanding and just let go.

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    • Short4Words
      9 years ago

      I agree. Finding that person is a whole 'nother story.

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      • Holzman_67
        9 years ago

        That's right better start looking. Open up, dive in.

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  • Evgenia
    9 years ago

    its not a big deal, im 29

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  • secretlyme
    9 years ago

    I'm a christian and believe sex is for marriage, but that doesnt mean its easy. Of course I WANT sex, but it's worth the wait. Feel no shame my friend.

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    Try prostitutes to begin. I'm sure they're used to seeing shy guy. Just be careful. I'm sure it helps.

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    • Short4Words
      9 years ago

      That's the last thing I thought you'd say.

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      • kelili
        9 years ago

        Why?

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        • Short4Words
          9 years ago

          I thought you were more spiritually inclined.

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          • kelili
            9 years ago

            I believe in goodness. :)

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  • rushi@bitchy
    8 years ago

    Don't be ashamed .. I am 21 still single never come into relationship with any guy so sex is a far away thing for me... When u will find the right girl everything's gonna be fine :)

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    Be confident with who you are. And when the right girl comes along, it will come naturally don't worry so much about being a virgin, you probably dwell over it because todays society most are having sex at 13. But take your time :) And the right girl will understand I promise :)

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  • deadfishfollowthestream
    9 years ago

    Virginity is just an imagined concept and you shouldn't care dude. People can lose their virginity to a tree, a moose, their uncle, a prostitute, or whatever. It only matters when you're ready and fully mature when it happens. And that it happens with someone you love, else you'll feel like shit after it. Sex is more than just two genitals slamming into each other, trust me. It's better when an emotional connection is involved.

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    • Short4Words
      9 years ago

      I agree. In my best place I share this mindset. I want to believe that the girl for me would understand but unfortunately I don't. Not completely, at least.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    Or... OR...

    You could go for the virgin world record?

    How old do you think the world's oldest virgin is/was? Take a wild guess

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