I feel a sense of impending doom because of my situation

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When I was 18, I went off to college thinking that 4 years later, I would be married to the love of my life, have my first child, and a great career!!!!!!!! GUESS WHAT!!!!!!!! I will be 23 in 4 days, and I have no boyfriend, no degree, NOTHING!!!!!! I am working as a cna for $11/hour and I live with my parents. I feel old and washed out, I am so freaked out about turning 23 that I am worried that I will never get my life back 2gether, I mean I don't want to wait until I am 30 to have my first child, I wanted everything to be scripted out.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    What was the course you took? Why wont they give you a job with that degree?

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    Omg. I know EXACTLY what you're going through. For me, I had those goals set for 25. Well guess what? When my 25th birthday came, I was SO insanely depressed because I had a crappy job, wasn't married, though I did have a boyfriend (who later turned into my husband), and we rented a little room. No kids either. So I felt like CRAP. I was so depressed, I actually went on antidepressants.

    I am now 28, and I am happily married to my husband, with two cats, and we have our own house. No kids yet, but I'm in no rush. He has a good job, and mine is okay.

    So I guess what I'm trying to say is, everything will happen in time. Don't get discouraged. If I could make it, then so can you! :) Just might be a little behind schedule.

    I'm actually thinking I'll wait to have kids when I'm 30. I wanna have fun in my 20s and try to save up money too, so we can be good and ready for a baby.

    Good luck to you! :)

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      I second it. I am 30 in a month and a half and I am stress out as I have been busting my butt to go back to school and get a degree. I am happy with my fiance although she outweights me by maybe double my weight. Also, I am handicap now and I never in my life thought Multiple Sclerosis would hit me.

      All in all, I am happy. I do rant here on this site sometimes but my personal life is full of joy. However, I do know what you mean. I thought I would be much further than I am and wasting my life at a dead end job for 5 years didn't help matters much.

      The best advice I can tell you is to do what I do, which is don't feel like your in a race with others and just live life a day at a time. Don't stress over little shit and lastly; the uglier people tend to be the best people to date and try to be a friend to them more than a sex partner.

      There is no such thing as a perfect person and even I have faults. The important thing is to realise this and find things in life to make you happy.

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      • [Old Memory]
        14 years ago

        At least I got my tax license (State of Oregon demands it) so I am doing stuff. I have to work as a tax preparer anyways for experience so I am working toward my goals.

        Just don't give up and you will be happy...eventually.

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    • BullyRammer
      14 years ago

      Shut up you miserable Toad. Life ain't easy, stop wallowing in your own self pity and grow some busters. Jesus Christ! I hate attention seekers, if I was the main dog I'd have you all eliminated so the rest of us could live In peace. Pull yourself together, get a grip and crack on. I bet you're fat?

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      • krh90
        13 years ago

        EXCUSE ME!!!!!!!!!! WHAT MAKES U THINK I AM FAT???????? BTW, YOUR COMMENT WAS TOTALLY INAPROPRIATE:(

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      • BullyRammer
        14 years ago

        Sorry this was meant for a different post. Good luck.

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  • Nakkiel
    13 years ago

    I'm a year older and don't want a kid, but other than that in the same situation. Wishing the both of us luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Its funny how people from different age groups and with different life circumstances stress over various things that are meaningless to others. When I get really depressed about what "I ain't got", I reflect on the millions upon millions of people who have it so much worse. I'm just glad that I am not that old dude in India who had to eat his own poo cuz he is so poor or that I am not "Tree Man"(Google him).

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Well as it turns out, shit happens.

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  • i_am_evil
    13 years ago

    I plan to get married at the age of 28 and become a billionaire at the age of 30. You seem like your in such a hurry. I don't even want to think of making a family without the proper education and savings in the bank. Don't be in a hurry. Live your life ;)

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  • lalaforthehaha
    13 years ago

    Look 23 if really really really young, you have soo much time to get your life working for you, the way you want to.

    Idk what culture you are living in but in australia most people get married at late 20's early 30's

    Why would you want to be married at 23?!

    chill out! You are so young to be thinking this way

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    • krh90
      13 years ago

      well thank you, that is encouraging:)

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  • DES
    13 years ago

    Holy cow i didn't want kids untili was 30 enjoy your life now you got a job in a field that's highly in demond good for you live with your parents who cares save you money to buy a house stocks get out of debt thank the goddess you don't have kids to sterss out about too

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