I fear i will be alone forever?

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So this is my first posting on here and i kind of was hoping for some advice?
I am a 26 y/o female. The last real relationship i was in ended when i was 21. I used to drink allot which gave me courage, But now i do not drink. I have had a few flings (that i thought would turn into something) but did not :( I am just worried that i am going to keep falling into that rut of having to hear a guy say "I really like you but ...." i am sick of it and feel that i will be single forever. any advice?

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    I think its normal but maybe some advice (based on what my brother bit*hes about dates/girls):
    1. dont act needy (ie: calling every day, always wanting to touch or be touched like holding hands etc.)
    2. Dont continuously ask them if they still like you or if there is anything wrong...... comes across as though you have very low self esteem
    3. Dont give them too much - information, gifts etc - they should have to work for it.
    4. Dont always pay for dates - though dont expect him to pay always (like if he got the dinner maybe get the movie and the popcorn for or something)
    5. Dont argue about stupid shit
    6. Dont get angry when he 'may' have been checking out other girls - like dont be too sensitive about it
    7. Dont be too sensitive
    8. Try not to give in (or have sex) too early on.... try - Never continue to have sex without haveing some sort of label on the relationship or at least recognize when/if he is using you
    9. Dont be self conscience when you have sex
    10. Stand up tall and proud
    11. Love yourself :)
    12. Be yourself :)
    13. Try to understand that you dont need him to make you happy
    14. Dont be too opinionated - like recognize if your opinions are hurting someone or are just irritating
    15. Recognize when his emotions... which take time... and be there for him
    You will find true love :) You sound like a really nice person

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      1. I don't agree.
      2. I don't mind, I can just reasure her that I love her and that there's nothing wrong.
      3. 50/50 on that one.
      4. I doubt I ever let my ex pay for anything like that. I don't really care though.
      5. I agree completely.
      6. True to a certain point. I think just a quick check is normal and EVERYONE does it, but staring for a while, I think she's aloud to get mad.
      7. I don't mind it.
      8. True, I wouldn't want to have sex on day 2. With feelings comes the sex.
      9. True.
      10,11,12. Completely agree.
      13. True but I'm sure the person you're with does bring in a big part of happiness.
      14. I rather her speaking her mind then not saying what she really wants to say.

      There's a second point of view to things. Just be yourself is what I can say.

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      • MissClaire
        12 years ago

        Good to know! thanks :)

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  • Zukes370
    12 years ago

    stop with relationships and have fun... have sex more often. start with the bar. don't fall in love.

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  • Ashley781
    12 years ago

    aww thank you guys! your so nice :)

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    • DoucheFAGGOT
      12 years ago

      No problem :) now get out there tigress.

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  • UliNalaMansae
    12 years ago

    /You were hopin a fling would turn into something else! oh honey, guys dont have sex like us, they dont get the emotional attachment we do, believe me. Im not good with this stuff so all im goin to say is: when he walks you home or drops you off just say 'i had a good time.' No we should do this again or call me, becoz men are committment phobes and even thinkin about the futur will scare them off! but then again i kno nothin.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Don't worry. Someone will come along, and they won't say the word "but" after they say, "I like you". Don't change anything that makes you who you are. The great guy(and I know a great guy will come) that I know will certainly come along, is going to take you for who you are.

    It's normal to have doubts, but you're only 26. You still have time, and don't stress over it, because even when it might seem like you're not getting what you want/need, fate will unexpectedly show you that you are. The right guy will come along. Don't worry about a thing. :)

    And I get that unfortunately too... "I really like you but..." At some point in everybodys life, I think you'll hear it at least once or twice.

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