I fall in love way too easy...

I don't talk to women that much, mostly because whenever one talks back to me I fall in love with her even if I've only known her 5 minutes. I never ask any out or anything because I know that my feelings are flawed because I really dont know the person, am I normal?

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Based on 201 votes (111 yes)
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  • sansimage

    You fall in love with _every_ woman you talk to? I thought I fell in love too easy...

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  • bodiewangler

    That's a significant overreaction to female attention- it's really not normal to feel that you love anyone who you have not at least vibed with on at least 3-4 separate days, because that's how long it takes on average for people to feel like they are no longer strangers.

    You also probably have very low self-esteem with regard to your ability to attract women. I would first of all start viewing yourself as a normal person who is competent to hold a conversation with a woman without getting all mushy.

    After that, I would just practice talking to random women who you walk by on a daily basis. At the grocery store, bookstore, wherever. Start off small just smiling and saying hi (or even asking them what the time is) and eventually push the boundaries more. You want to reach the point where you can hold a 10 minute conversation without feeling super awkward- if it helps prepare some simple stories and conversation topics that most people can relate to and won't be creeped out by. If you start feeling emotionally attached, tell your emotions to shut up because they are not normal.

    It's definitely a problem that needs fixing, and the only way to handle it is to become accustomed to talking to girls without falling in love. And eventually, you have to be able to hold a steady conversation to long enough for it to be normal for you to man up and ask her out on a date. And you have to man up and ask girls out on a date eventually if you want a girl to ever love you back.

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    • therevolutionist

      Im pretty much the same way as the stroy author and I got to say that after saying hi there isnt much to say or even If I say hi to a girl then I start stuttering how can I fix that?

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  • combatgal856

    It's not abnormal, but if you don't talk to women much then is there a possiblity that you don't know the difference between love and friendship love.

    Sometimes deep feelings can be a friendship feeling. As a woman, I realise that sometimes I see my friends which are male as more than friends and think 'I love them' but this is usually because it's a friendship and te closer you become to someone, the deeper the relationship becomes.

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  • Fiaaa167

    I don't think you quite know what love is..You can't fall that easily

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