I dread weddings & all events associated with weddings.

I am embarrassed to admit this to friends or family since they all have big weddings, so I come here to see if what I feel is normal. I would never want anyone to think I was not happy for my friends. I am glad for them finding a soul mate. It's the wedding event hoopla I don't care for. I have even helped friends with their weddings reluctantly when recruited but secretly, I do not like weddings, bridal showers, rehersal dinners, etc. Brides seem to feel a sense of entitlement & lash out at the people closest to them & others involved in the wedding. They get bent out of shape over minute issues, blow them up into epic proportions. One friend constantly talks about her wedding plans. I nod & smile but am annoyed inside. She talks about her registry, the perfect color of ivory, but absent from the conversation is her mate. It's like he is just filling a slot. It seems like a huge amount of resources go into these events, and many of the relationships do not work out. I wonder if they spent nearly as much time preparing for the relationship as the big event if it would work out?

I don't understand bachelor/bachelorette parties either, it seems to bring on the drama & cause issues right before the couple's big day.

I myself got married several years ago on an island with just my husband & I present because I dislike weddings so much. I did not have any showers, or bachelorette/bachelor parties/rehersal dinner. I feel like the real reason for the celebration, love & starting a life together, gets lost in all of the event planning.

I don't mind simple weddings, it's only the big ones that offend me. And lately, it seems that the latter is the only kind that exists.

When I get invited to wedding related events, (and as a lady in my late 20's, I get invited to many) I actually dread showing up to them. Is this normal? Thank you in advance for taking time to read my personal issues!

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Comments ( 6 )
  • Uzzie101

    I HATE WEDDINGS!
    They're so false and boring!

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  • almostunreadable

    Exactly my feelings! Your husband is happy to have one such as you.

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  • blondie28

    It's deft normal but sometimes u just gotta grin and bare it, just try to be happy for that person

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  • iknowhoiam

    I feel the exact same way you do. I despise them. I am happy for the couple but I have to make myself go. I think lavish weddings are a waste of money to. when as you said most marriages won't even last these days. I had a very small quick wedding and was pleased with just that instead of putting people on the spot.

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  • randomjelly

    Sure it's normal. It's also normal to love them and you should remember that as well.

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  • kurst20

    I can't stand going to wedding and/ or baby showers.

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