I dread weddings & all events associated with weddings.
I am embarrassed to admit this to friends or family since they all have big weddings, so I come here to see if what I feel is normal. I would never want anyone to think I was not happy for my friends. I am glad for them finding a soul mate. It's the wedding event hoopla I don't care for. I have even helped friends with their weddings reluctantly when recruited but secretly, I do not like weddings, bridal showers, rehersal dinners, etc. Brides seem to feel a sense of entitlement & lash out at the people closest to them & others involved in the wedding. They get bent out of shape over minute issues, blow them up into epic proportions. One friend constantly talks about her wedding plans. I nod & smile but am annoyed inside. She talks about her registry, the perfect color of ivory, but absent from the conversation is her mate. It's like he is just filling a slot. It seems like a huge amount of resources go into these events, and many of the relationships do not work out. I wonder if they spent nearly as much time preparing for the relationship as the big event if it would work out?
I don't understand bachelor/bachelorette parties either, it seems to bring on the drama & cause issues right before the couple's big day.
I myself got married several years ago on an island with just my husband & I present because I dislike weddings so much. I did not have any showers, or bachelorette/bachelor parties/rehersal dinner. I feel like the real reason for the celebration, love & starting a life together, gets lost in all of the event planning.
I don't mind simple weddings, it's only the big ones that offend me. And lately, it seems that the latter is the only kind that exists.
When I get invited to wedding related events, (and as a lady in my late 20's, I get invited to many) I actually dread showing up to them. Is this normal? Thank you in advance for taking time to read my personal issues!