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If u have no childs and u are Old too then
Who will take care for you , give company to you ? Make food for you ? ( your partner) ? He/she might also be old . You need some one when u are sick or to chill your mood , gossip etc .
This is stupid.
Have kids because you want to raise kids, it's supposed to be the opposite of selfish.
If you want a slave for when you are old just save up some money and get a carer or something. This is obvious. If you raise your kids purely for this purpose they will notice and end up leaving you to rot in a horrible care home while they wait for their inheritance
You're a selfish prick if that's the reason you're having kids.
Coincidentally, I found an interesting Quora question a few weeks ago: "How much am I obligated to take care of my parents in their old age?" This comment summarized it pretty well:
"None. It's completely up to you how much you want to care for them. You had zero choice in their decision to have kids. Neither did you have any say in how much they are to sacrifice for those kids. The same is true for you now. You decide how much you are willing to sacrifice.
To do it out of "obligation" is an insult to every human being that has ever had a child as it becomes a selfish act to have kids in exchange for one day gaining from it. That isn't how it is. At least not how it should be. They cared for you out of love. The abundance of abandoned and abused children is proof. Now it's your turn. Do it for love, if that is something you feel and to the extent that you do. Otherwise you didn't sign up for such an obligation."
So you think parents have children because they want a slave when they get old?
It works like that in some cultures (although that's changing in a lot of places), but not many children in the West feel they're duty-bound to give up all hope of having the life they want because they have to care for their parents.
Its obviously a Duty for childs to take care of there parents in old age Just like they did when we were small babies .
We came into this world because of them( i mean they were the source)
"Its obviously a Duty for childs to take care of there parents in old age"
Maybe where you live or in your mind that's obvious, but not everyone feels that way.
I'm a parent, and I'd hate it if my daughter had to waste her life looking after me if I couldn't take care of myself.
Duty? That just makes the kid resent their parent and see them as some sort of burden. Most parents wouldn't want to burden their child. If they're smart about it they have a 401K and pension to rely on, not their kids. XD
So anyone who isn't wealthy in old age isn't smart? Really? I live on a pension with casual work and while I do get some support from my daughter, she has her own life to live.
I get help where and when I can in the community, but hate asking and it's not always there when I need it.
It's like this in my husband's culture. All children are duty bound to care for elderly parents and aunts, uncles. But
most Eastern cultures treat their elders better then we do in western cultures.
You don't need kids. Just hire a caretaker.
My mother tried forcing my sister to care for her mother. She used every guilt trip to get her to do so.
If you are strong you will be able to take care of yourself even in the old age.
It's not guaranteed that your child will be there for you. Why do you think old age homes are so full. Children are ungrateful and rude to their parents most of the time. It's a big gamble. Maybe if you grow your kids up with love, they will be there for you when you really need them. Personally and according to my beliefs, taking care of your parents when they reach old age is the greatest honour. And doing things for them, when all those years, they did things for you, feels so fulfilling.
Your children shouldn't have to take care of you when you get old. Most people decades ago lived their lives and died just like everyone else. Why the heck should children have to take care of their elderly parents? THat's a waste of life right there. People quit being selfish to your children and just pay the expense for being handicap or an invalid to someone who is WILLING to do so not your children. Grow up people. You get old not lazy.
Sometimes I wonder how it would be when I'll get old. I hope that I would be healthy and one day just die peacefully in my sleep. But I hinestly don't expect my child to take care of me when I'm old although it is customary here for children to take care of their old parents. But life is changing and now more and more women are working which means that it is almost impossible for children to take care of their parent.
One thing is certain, I would never take my parents away form their house to come live with me because this house represents all their sacrifices and life wasn't easy on them. And they have already told me that they would never leave.
What I can do as a child is to look for someone to help them when they can no longer do everything by themselves but not because they asked it but because I want to.
I would not expect my son to take care of me when I'm old.
I don't even know, but I had an aunt who never got married, and never had children. She ended up dying of lung cancer I dunno how old she was exactly, but she was maybe in her seventies. When I was a kid I kinda wanted to be like her, and never get married. I think I would be been better off if I had never gotten married.
You definitely need someone in old age . Specially when your life-partner dies ...
So in this case :- being married is good . Idk
That depends on whom you marry: you may end up with someone who doesn't look after you or goes off with someone younger or as you say, dies before you or needs more care than you do.
I've discovered there are no guarantees about this. I'm old and single and in poor health, bu I don't expect my only child to look after me, although she does to some extent.
As someone who was strong and healthy and independent most of my life, I find it hard to ask for help.
You use a lot of absolute language: "definitely", "obviously", "duty". That suggests you have what some people would call firm beliefs. I suspect you actually have a very narrow and limited understanding of the world.
I don't want to be treated like a child when I get old, so I don't want a nanny or for my daughter and I to switch roles, so she's effectively the parent and I'm her kid. That idea physically repulses me.
Lots of older people are fiercely independent, and they tend to live longer. The ones who collapse into passivity tend to lose the will to live because their life is pointless, and they die sooner.